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Saturday, October 22, 2016

I Know........

...............right? They usually just end up being a great place to pile up clothes!

I love these old covers. Check out the subtitle: "HER STEPMOTHER TURNED HER TO THE QUEER LIFE BEFORE HER FIRST DATE SHE WAS WHIPPED BEFORE SHE STARTED". The lack of any punctuation and the choice of words makes the statement much funnier than I'm sure the author intended. I mean life is sort of queer when you think about it. Strange stuff happens all of the time. Now if that's not what Meryl Cork (great name too, huh? like you have to wonder when Meryl got popped?) meant, then you get into that whole "you can make someone homosexual, and therefore conversely, cure someone of it as well".........and that's just a load of shit.

And then there's "she was whipped before she started". Literally? Like whip whipped? Well maybe the lash welts were enough to convince her to try something new, even if it wasn't her 'thing'? Or was she defeated whipped? Or maybe she was just tired whipped? Fatigue can have you agree to a lot of things you wouldn't do wide awake.

Like write detailed posts about old book covers that no one even has read. 

Friday, October 21, 2016

Happy endings

The classic "happy ending" of song and story.

But................that's not what I meant. (Still, I got your attention.) No, I mean the literal (and literary) happy ending to a it book, movie, etc. They say "everybody loves a happy ending", and to some degree that's more true for some than others. Recently I read a few stories that had the potential to really stick it to the reader at the end. The throat was bare. But the author in each case, let justice triumph or had the evil character achieve redemption. And you know what? The readers who commented on these stories LOVED those endings............just like the guy in that picture above would probably prefer this:

to this:

But that's not how life always goes, and maybe it's me but I really love the end with a dark finish. (And since I end up more often like the caged guy than the champagne bottle, perhaps I am in a minority of opinion and experience.)

Cinematically, just think of how much better the Director's cut of "Bladerunner" is with the realistic, dreary, hope-in-a-dirty-bottle ending. How much better would "I Am Legend" have been if it ended with the woman and her son finding the sought after facility ruined and overrun just as the sun set.....with the sounds of the creatures echoing through the woods? How much cooler would it have been if "Children of Men" ended with Kee waiting in the boat with Theo's body.........but never seeing the boat in the fog. Maybe it comes. maybe it doesn't. End it there.

The reason I reference these three movies is that they were not happy, upbeat films to begin with. (I don't think "Singin' in the Rain" would be more appealing if Gene Kelly, Donald O'Connor, & Debbie Reynolds were all struck by a bus at the end. Though I do love the use of the song 'Singin' in the Rain' in "A Clockwork Orange".) No, these were dark films.....and yet to appease the typical viewer, they were given crowd-pleaser endings.

Well, for me the same is true with a spanking story. Sure most are fun. Others are a bit sexy. But not every single one has to be. If you live this lifestyle, you probably love the juicy elements involved...........but you probably also know that things don't always go according to fantasy, and that spankings are not 'magic pills' that solve everything. Every now and then I like to read (or write) a spanking story that doesn't promote sexual elation, but leaves me thinking. 

If you feel the same way, and believe a spanking story can be used to do more than just titillate.....try these:

And if you have written or know of a story with a darker aspect, leave a comment or link! I have read a few and they really impressed me with their insight and disturbing realism.

If not? To each their own............and continue to enjoy your "happy endings"! 

Thursday, October 20, 2016

Go for it.

Today I thought to take a break from long, revealing posts to just offer a thought to accompany this cute cartoon I found online:

(just click on it to see it larger)

It seems lately that I've been seeing a lot of sad accounts from people who are suppressing their kinkier desires in order to maintain some sort of harmonious, yet unsatisfying, status quo in their lives. I cannot understand this. I think that just like the lady in the cartoon, people would be surprised at how simple it might be to have their desires met if they just took the bold step to reveal them. It starts with letting people know who you really are, up front, right from the start.........and without undue shame!

Wednesday, October 19, 2016


While I have openly discussed this before on several forums and alluded to it here, there has been a reasonable question posed as to the how’s and why’s of our open DD lifestyle.

So I am going to describe it as accurately and succinctly as I can:

Rosa and her three kids live with me. At the very start of our cohabitation Rosa expressed a concern that by moving into “my” house, she worried that she would never feel it was hers too. At the time we were already ‘playing’ with spanking and some other BDSM activities, but had not adopted a full-out DD lifestyle. In order to assuage my Honey’s concerns, I suggested we take our activities ‘to the next level’ complete with rules she could enforce and consequences. At the time I felt this was a huge step. Rosa however, reacted as if it was the most normal, logical, and reasonable thing in the world. She agreed in a heartbeat and took over as a sort of disciplinary HoH with areas that were left egalitarian (like finances and handling of issues with our own children). 

Not long after initiating a DD relationship, she discussed her desire to live openly as a family.....mainly to show that a responsible, mutually-desired lifestyle is nothing to be ashamed of. I saw her point and with only a little hesitation, agreed. That was around 2010....give or take, and when we came out to her kids, the world did not end. They all reacted differently but essentially positively to the news. Each seemed mature enough to understand it, even if they initially found it to be a very different sort of thing from what they were used to. It did not take long though for them to not only get used to it, but embrace it. I do think the reason this has worked so well for us is the particular serendipitous dynamic we have. I tend to doubt her kids would be as receptive to a DD household if I was the dominant partner spanking their Mom for misdeeds. But in our case, this arrangement has been completely embraced by them since it is their mother in charge and her rule ensures a huge benefit of guaranteed respect and safety for them. In our home, there is never any reason they need to worry about how anyone might be mistreated. They and their Mom are safe and secure. If I do anything to jeopardize that……I suffer the consequences. All three (now 16 through 20) had those occasional issues with me where I either scolded the wrong kid, or impatiently snapped at one of them for no good reason, and they saw the issue resolved with their Mom taking me off to our room and spanking me for it. And despite our great inter-relationships, none ever seemed too upset about me getting it good for hurting their feelings.

This older piece depicting an early household reality, is framed and hanging just inside our bedroom behind the door when opened and visible when closed. While depicted as piggies, each of us is represented in somewhat accurate resemblance and gesture. Anyone knowing us would easily know which piggy was who.....though the little piggies at the door are quite grown up now.

If one of them was directly wronged by me and they seemed sincerely upset by it, their mother not only informed them that she would ‘take care of it’ but very often even asked that they themselves suggest an amount of spanks they thought was fair. Now one might think this would result is some crazy suggestions, but each one always took that offer very seriously and really gave fair suggestions sometimes even with tears in their eyes. Furthermore, you’d think such a thing could lead to a lack of respect for me…….but it never did. 

Overall her kids see me as a father figure  and have said so openly. However, there is also a general feeling of being in the same situation with regards to their Mom's authority.....with the exception that they were not spanked. So, if there is any misbehavior in the house, any one of us could expect to be punished by my honey. However, they experience only revoked privileges. I too may have privileges revoked, but invariably my misdeeds are handled with a punishment spanking behind closed doors......but not out of earshot.  

However, other than this dynamic, we are very much the average family in every other way. There is no lack of mutual respect. No inappropriate teasing. If they do tease, it’s very much in line with what you might expect from anyone aware of the situation. We all care about each other very much. Coming out to them merely resulted in an open lifestyle. No worries over who was home if I needed to be punished.....just off to the bedroom and immediate consequences: a combination of a stinging backside and the embarrassment of having my punishment being easily heard. It might sound strange....but it works for us.

Monday, October 17, 2016


This is a pretty accurate depiction of how I feel today.

Yesterday was a complicated day. It started out fun and even sexy, and literally ran the gamut until it concluded. When you visit spanking blogs, you see the full range of how varied this one activity can be. What is even more interesting is how varied even a single session can be!

Rosa and I engage in all sorts of things at different times. Sometimes we are playful, other times sexy, and yet other times there is a very serious disciplinary aspect to what we do. But truly, most often these feelings tend to blend rather than isolate themselves instance by instance. Therefore I can get a "serious" spanking for genuine misbehavior and feel very contrite and punished......and that authority and my reaction to it can turn Rosa on so that she finds the genuine discipline sexy. But I have always felt there could often be an undercurrent of seriousness to even playful spanking and that is sort of what happened yesterday.

Even if you just 'play' with can real life not touch upon the discipline at times?

We are open in our household as many of you know. Everyone knows that I get spanked for misbehavior and for 'fun stuff' as well. In fact, it has long been established that no one living here need ever 'worry' about "Birthday Spanks" because while we don't do them every time there's a birthday.......if we DO do them, there's only one behind in danger no matter whose birthday it is. I am the family "Birthday-Spank Proxy". And because of that, when we engage in this tradition, we don't just do the old "one swat for each year" thing. Instead, the birthday honoree and others get to decide on a total number of spanks and then it's off to the bedroom for a thorough spanking. The birthday boy/girl gets the "luck" associated with the practice and I get the hot bottom. And everyone (including me) finds it humorous and fun.............even if the spanking part for me is a little less so.

So yesterday morning, Rosa asked her clan for a number with which to honor her son's birthday. To my surprise, my step-daughter suggested a rather large number and the birthday boy then followed suit with only a slightly lower one. Rosa simply added the two together and it was decided that at some point later in the day, I would get this marathon paddling. (Thankfully my other stepson was already at work or who knows how high that number would have risen?)

As the day progressed, each kid went off on their own adventures and Rosa and I ended up with a lot of private time. We were driving back from taking Ana back to college when I asked about what Rosa thought was behind the rather substantial sum suggested by her kids. She thought it was actually prompted by my behavior, since due to some external stresses, I have not been the most patient person with people. I thought the number was a mischievous way for them to encourage Rosa and I to have some real lengthy time together since they know we have only recently come back into re-living our lifestyle as we used to.

I asked Ana today via text about her reasoning and she admitted it was truly BOTH. So what was meant as 'fun' did have some serious undertones contained within. 

Anyway, regardless of the entire range of reasons, the spanking itself was epic and ran the gamut of challenging, playful, and even sexy. Rosa got excited enough to demand an "O" for herself midway through (which she got) and also some nice foot-pampering after we were done. All with me sitting on a thoroughly-roasted and swollen bottom! Me? By the end I was total mushball of puppy-dog submissiveness.

Today though, any of that 'endorphin rush' or even local numbness you can experience during a really long paddling is long gone, and due to the astounding number of swats I received, my bottom is just incredibly sore!  Sitting, or even just walking or moving, all instantly remind me of last night. Additionally, this very real fact will again affect behavior, since regardless of the range of reasons for last night's paddling......there is simply no way I am going to do anything to prompt another spanking right now. It would be hell to get spanked on top of this raw bottom and Rosa has no qualms about spanking a second time if necessary. 

Now just where IS that ice-pack anyway?

Friday, October 14, 2016


( Considering how conservatively a lot of DD folk see themselves, this might not have been the best picture to illustrate our 'community'......but a bunch of folks looking like they were at a wedding wouldn't get the point across as well either. )

I've been thinking about how things have changed in my lifetime. There was a time when you didn't even have to be friends with someone to engage in reciprocity. It was an understood social expectation among polite and civilized people. If someone invited you to their home, you left thinking of when you'd be able to return the invitation. But today that's gone like a ripple in a stream.

Recently I have had a few disappointing instances where people just couldn't be bothered with things that literally would have taken a minute or two at most.

While this is very much a prevalent way of thinking in 2016, one would hope that in a community of alternate lifestyle people, who always seem to clamor for 'acceptance' from a world that doesn't always understand them, that there would be more of an effort to nurture connections and support. Ah.....but who has the time? Right?

When my kids were very young they used to compete with each other for attention. I used to tease them when it got too much by turning to them with an exaggerated expression and repeating, "lookatme-lookatme-lookatme" over and over until they laughed. Thankfully they outgrew that behavior. But how disappointing it is to find that as time passed our entire society regressed into that childlike mindset.

Now everyone wants attention. I am no exception. But I always felt that the key to a mature and lasting guarantee of attention was reciprocity. ( Just like in polite conversation: you listen to me and then I listen to you. ) It's how friendships are formed.
But today who needs friendship that requires effort when you can just have a "friend" with a click and interact with a "like"? Easy, right? Well it may be easy......but like anything easy, what is its value? Where is the depth? What's the point of a shallow 'like' when there could be a discussion and exchange of ideas?

Now I'm not perfect with this either.....but I am sincere. If a person comments here and they have a blog I am aware of, I do try, at least periodically, to leave a comment there. So, if you come here and read my blog and like it...........and you have a blog of your own......drop me an invitation! I'll visit. If we agree, perhaps we might even link each other? I increase your traffic and you increase mine, and together we build!

Thursday, October 13, 2016

Kitchen tomfoolery

It appears our exploration of CFNF has lost some steam, so while I have others in reserve, I'm going to offer just one more for now before shifting gears to other topics. We may very likely revisit CFNF in the future though. But right now here's this:

So these two look like they could be sisters. And while a 'caught you' picture is not uncommon in these days where everyone has a camera in their phone, a couple of things that are curious:
Why is the NF in a kitchen? 'caught you naked' pictures almost always happen in bedrooms, bathrooms, locker rooms, or hotel rooms. And more interestingly.....who is the girl in the background? She seems disinterested in the little scenario unfolding around her. One would expect her to be looking into the camera with glee.................but no. She looks almost annoyed. So what's going on here?