So I am going to describe it as accurately and succinctly as I can:
Rosa and her three kids live with me. At the very start of our cohabitation Rosa expressed a concern that by moving into “my” house, she worried that she would never feel it was hers too. At the time we were already ‘playing’ with spanking and some other BDSM activities, but had not adopted a full-out DD lifestyle. In order to assuage my Honey’s concerns, I suggested we take our activities ‘to the next level’ complete with rules she could enforce and consequences. At the time I felt this was a huge step. Rosa however, reacted as if it was the most normal, logical, and reasonable thing in the world. She agreed in a heartbeat and took over as a sort of disciplinary HoH with areas that were left egalitarian (like finances and handling of issues with our own children).
Not long after initiating a DD relationship, she discussed her desire to live openly as a family.....mainly to show that a responsible, mutually-desired lifestyle is nothing to be ashamed of. I saw her point and with only a little hesitation, agreed. That was around 2010....give or take, and when we came out to her kids, the world did not end. They all reacted differently but essentially positively to the news. Each seemed mature enough to understand it, even if they initially found it to be a very different sort of thing from what they were used to. It did not take long though for them to not only get used to it, but embrace it. I do think the reason this has worked so well for us is the particular serendipitous dynamic we have. I tend to doubt her kids would be as receptive to a DD household if I was the dominant partner spanking their Mom for misdeeds. But in our case, this arrangement has been completely embraced by them since it is their mother in charge and her rule ensures a huge benefit of guaranteed respect and safety for them. In our home, there is never any reason they need to worry about how anyone might be mistreated. They and their Mom are safe and secure. If I do anything to jeopardize that……I suffer the consequences. All three (now 16 through 20) had those occasional issues with me where I either scolded the wrong kid, or impatiently snapped at one of them for no good reason, and they saw the issue resolved with their Mom taking me off to our room and spanking me for it. And despite our great inter-relationships, none ever seemed too upset about me getting it good for hurting their feelings.
This older piece depicting an early household reality, is framed and hanging just inside our bedroom behind the door when opened and visible when closed. While depicted as piggies, each of us is represented in somewhat accurate resemblance and gesture. Anyone knowing us would easily know which piggy was who.....though the little piggies at the door are quite grown up now.
If one of them was directly wronged by me and they seemed sincerely upset by it, their mother not only informed them that she would ‘take care of it’ but very often even asked that they themselves suggest an amount of spanks they thought was fair. Now one might think this would result is some crazy suggestions, but each one always took that offer very seriously and really gave fair suggestions sometimes even with tears in their eyes. Furthermore, you’d think such a thing could lead to a lack of respect for me…….but it never did.
Overall her kids see me as a father figure and have said so openly. However, there is also a general feeling of being in the same situation with regards to their Mom's authority.....with the exception that they were not spanked. So, if there is any misbehavior in the house, any one of us could expect to be punished by my honey. However, they experience only revoked privileges. I too may have privileges revoked, but invariably my misdeeds are handled with a punishment spanking behind closed doors......but not out of earshot.
However, other than this dynamic, we are very much the average family in every other way. There is no lack of mutual respect. No inappropriate teasing. If they do tease, it’s very much in line with what you might expect from anyone aware of the situation. We all care about each other very much. Coming out to them merely resulted in an open lifestyle. No worries over who was home if I needed to be punished.....just off to the bedroom and immediate consequences: a combination of a stinging backside and the embarrassment of having my punishment being easily heard. It might sound strange....but it works for us.