(Kami Tora again captures the expressions that make the cartoons so relevant.....but what's with those massive penises????)
As many of you already know, I need permission from Rosa just to pleasantly touch myself, let alone have an orgasm on my own. And depending on her mood (and mine) she can be generous or let be go on frustrated for long periods. Up until recently she had been pretty generous, giving me an "o" of some kind almost every week. But recently I have been denied for several weeks and have been given instructions to "tease" pretty regularly. As a result I am a bit more frustrated than usual.
Tease and denial 'play' seems to be appealing to couples with a power dynamic in place and that got me to thinking: Why?
As a guy, I have to admit even I enjoy the sweet torture of it all in a weird way. Yes, it is difficult at times and yes there are those times that you just want to be able to explode in orgasm......but being controlled this way has an appeal of its own, and the resulting frustration is the price of admission......even when the frustration is more than I would want.
But why is 'tease and denial' seemingly so appealing to women? And not just the woman in control.......those 'people in the know' in our lives who learn of the whole 'chastity thing' seem to vicariously enjoy my predicament as well. ( I was asking some kinky questions to one person in our circle and at one point asked: "If you could lock up someone you knew, who would it be and for how long?" They replied that it would be ME for a YEAR! And this was someone who likes me! ) Marta has learned quite a bit about the practice and even saw me in one of my CB's. Nickki & Jean came VERY close to seeing me locked up that day Jean asked to go skinny-dipping. Another couple from my distant past saw me locked up a few times and never felt sorry for my situation.
Anyone who has found out about Rosa's 'key-in-a-locket' never decried the practice as cruel.....but all snicker in collusion. And I wonder if the genders were reversed, if that would still be true? It seems like this is one area of D/s that is a bit more gender-oriented with men being the favorite targets of denied orgasms. So what's up with the appeal for ladies? Is it the power alone? Or is it more complicated? And how does it translate to outside the immediate dynamic? (In other words, while one could see the appeal to the woman directly IN the relationship, why do women outside the relationship ALSO seem to enjoy it even when it doesn't directly affect them?)
It's interesting stuff and I'd love to hear from my Round Tablers on this one......and anyone else looking for a seat at the table!