an example of our Discipline Slips
Marta is a bit of a conundrum when it comes to DD. On one hand she seems to not only have no problem with it, but actually enjoy it. She cheerfully plays the part of "Lady Marta" at our RenFaire and relishes whacking the butts of the unfortunates who end up in her stocks. She has happily recommended significant punishments for me on several occasions and teased me about the 'end' results.
Her handling of the 2016/2017 punishment was nothing short of amazing. She met with me privately and seriously discussed my behavior. She seemed to enjoy the situation, but didn't make light of it and instead looked to be very fair yet firm in evaluating my behavior and what the consequences should be. Those familiar with that situation and the posts describing it, know she came up with a significant punishment, understanding full well that her decision and recommendation would be followed by Rosa and what a spanking from Rosa means for me. And yet she decided on 480 smacks with our hardest paddle and even added that they should get progressively harder until the final 30....which should be 'very hard'. I did not put these numbers or conditions in her head. She came up with them as what she thought would be an appropriate punishment......and it was. Later when, per her request, we visited her at her house to show off the results, she seemed impressed by the extent of the damage.....and while she teased me a bit, she never acted in any way regretful of her decision. Such self-confidence is a sure sign that Marta enjoys her authority, at least on some level.
But all of these past incidents have been initiated by us. And while Rosa and I have assured her countless times that SHE can initiate a punishment anytime she wishes, for ANY reason, Marta has never done so. But she always teases about it.
A while back I wrote a post about "green lights" and how even Ana.....who is a bit more confident as a disciplinarian than Marta, likes to have a solid clue or suggestion in order to prompt a slip. Rosa and I both see Marta as an ideal authority figure for me and we are trying everything we can think of to encourage her to be more aggressive.
Anyway, I just got off the phone with Marta and asked that she let me know when she might be available for a 'private talk' about a 'lifestyle issue' and she said she would. So at some point soon, she will be presented with the slips and our proposal.
I don't know if having the slips in her possession, along with our joint encouragement to use them as she wishes, will work. She may very well accept them and even appreciate the power bestowed upon her......and then never use them. Anyway, I am anticipating the meeting and curious to see what her reaction will be. And as always, I will keep my readers informed.