According to an online dictionary, this is the definition of lurking:
gerund or present participle: lurking
(of a person or animal) be or remain hidden so as to wait in ambush for someone or something.
"a ruthless killer still lurked in the darkness"
synonyms: skulk, loiter, lie in wait, lie low, hide, conceal oneself, take cover, keep out of sight
"is someone lurking in the bushes?"
(of an unpleasant quality) be present in a latent or barely discernible state, although still presenting a threat.
"fear lurks beneath the surface"
read the postings on an Internet message board or in a chat room without making any contribution oneself.
You have to admit it's not very flattering. I'd be embarrassed to have such a description connected to me.....but then again I grew up with a sense of pride versus shame. I thought there was an even more concise definition for the internet aspect of the word: 'online freeloader'.
Over the years I've been doing "Collected Submissions" I have posted several blurbs on my frustration over how difficult it is to get comments. And although I've bemoaned this issue before, one particular incident has really left me cold, and that was the disheartening lack of comments from all but my most loyal of visitors when Ana posed for the Halloween foot photos. I guess I could handle my own lack of feedback better than when it reflected on someone I care about. I know I can be controversial and snarky, but who couldn't appreciate the charm of those cute little scenes? Obviously most of you.
In their defense I have heard lurkers explain, "but I have nothing to add." That can be true at times. Not everything is going to trigger a response. But if you come here regularly, you must be finding the blog to be of some interest. And since the blog is clearly intended for "thinking deviants", you have ample opportunity to demonstate that you fit that criterion.
I have even seriously considered making this a private blog with access for select people only. (Of course those people would be the ones who participate even if only occasionally. After all, I'm not complaining about frequency, but about lack of any input at all.) The only thing that has kept me from doing this is a naive hope that by leaving the blog open, I may yet attract some additional insightful participants.
And so today rather than love my lurkers, I want to express my gratitude first to my "regulars" (you know who you are) and say that without YOU......I probably would have given up long ago. So thanks! Sincerely and gratefully.
Next to those who have left even a single comment: thank you as well. I hope you find a topic in the future to prompt you to participate again. And if there is a reason that you don't comment anymore.....let me know, either on the blog or by e-mail.
And so, without any disrespect to those celebrating "Love Our Lurkers", may I end with my version:
Because everyone else is just like Red Skelton's famous "Freddie" ........
.....though perhaps not quite as amusing.
I realize a post like this may offend some visitors enough that they decide not to return......but you know what the irony of that is? If a person is a devout lurker and instead of stepping up and joining in, they decide to never visit again............I won't even be able to tell.