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Friday, February 23, 2018

Power, porn, & perspective

Visual thought equation for the day:


Take one guy who has been denied an orgasm for well over a month, lock up his parts and multiply by a couple of extra weeks.....

...mix in some provocative imagery......and you get:



Well that's a practical math equation I can relate to, and one I'm sure those around me not subject to the same restrictions may even find amusing. My frustration has been hovering at peak levels for a while now, inducing all sorts of thoughts. One thing that I have pondered many times is whether the "selfie" and the Internet have changed how we now perceive "porn"?

Going back to the days when the only pornography one could view came from an industry reviled for its miserable treatment of women, the argument against pornography focused on the debasement, objectification, and exploitation of women....and rightly so. How many horror stories are out there about the things that went on and still go on in that business?

And women rebelled against it and took a stand. They educated men in how negative an impact pornography had on attitudes, relationships, and actual lives.  Looking at images of naked women became bad.....or if not bad, then at least something no one would brag about. And then the cell phone camera came about.

Suddenly any person could be an instant sex object........and they could do it on their own terms and for their own reasons. And rather than being victims of someone else's exploitation, people could celebrate their own sexuality. It was pretty empowering. 

I was thinking about that today as I viewed some amateur selfies. And given my situation, I found that there was something about viewing these self-created images that affected me more profoundly than the slickest photo of the most beautiful model, put out by the most technically-savvy studio. These were regular women of all ages, shapes, and situations who all chose to proudly, sexily, and even humorously use their own bodies to make their own statements. And perhaps, if I was free to use these images as fodder for gratification rather than frustration, I might feel like there was an understood, yet anonymous pact of mutual satisfaction between subject and viewer. But instead, I feel like the "sexy selfie" has turned the tables on us.....and maybe me, and other chaste/denied guys like me, even more so. Instead of being victims, these women are confident and in control. They know the allure that their bodies possess and they are having fun using that for their own motives rather than as way  to barely survive as others grow rich.

So I wonder: is there anything objectionable to viewing erotic images that are made and sent out by the 'models' themselves? As a locked male, these images certainly seem to have a more torturous effect on me as a viewer than for the subjects in the images!

Here is a sampling of some random selfies I came across that appealed to me for different reasons:

This woman just exudes confidence and strength. 

A little blurry......but adorable.

Proving that 'sexy' is not reserved merely for the young.

Although you can be young, and even silly, and still be a little temptress.

Here's a look that says, "who needs a fancy studio and some sleazy photographer with a beer belly and a ponytail when all I need is my cell phone, a bathroom mirror, and my own cute self?"

As I'm sure this agile vixen agrees.

And speaking of agility!

"Oh so you think only  skinny 18 year-olds making 'duck lips' do selfies?"

Well OK so maybe they aren't the only ones, but they do make up a lot of what you see. Now if someone just went the extra mile and made "duck lips" expressions with BOTH sets of lips!




13 comments:

  1. I totally agree with you that there is something far more alluring about selfies of "real women" than of airbrushed professional models. I also think far too much is made of the whole "porn is exploitation" thing. Seems like more manufactured, faux outrage from a few radical academics who aren't even really feminists but, rather, anti-masculinists, to coin a new term. Witness the recent blowback from Jennifer Lawrence after she got a finger-wagging lecture from someone about dressing sexily for a photo in cold weather. https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/arts-and-entertainment/wp/2018/02/21/this-is-not-feminism-jennifer-lawrence-tells-critics-of-her-versace-dress-to-get-a-grip/?utm_term=.db34689de35f. And, I think you are right that many of these women feel very empowered knowing that un-caged men everywhere can wank to those images.

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    1. I do think that the porn industry is guilty of some terrible things........especially some of those foreign companies whose practices include abduction, enslavement, and even worse. But I think it's healthy for people to embrace the power of their own sexuality and appeal and so I believe the 'selfie' rage (while it has its problems) is generally a good thing.

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    2. Oh, and I wonder if those women who get a kick out of being the focus of some anonymous guy's masturbation practice, would not also enjoy being the cause of groaning discomfort for the guys who can't masturbate?

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  2. Hi KD,
    I think that when porn became more available and the price dropped from astronomical to only outrageous it became more difficult for the exploitative media to make a profit. Consequently their power was effectively destroyed. I still like the professionally produced photos as I admire the "professional values" they bring to the shot (being a budding photographer) but the selfie brings a freshness and spontaneity to the photos that has been lost by the main stream.

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    1. I get your point on the quality aspect, but the models and poses are so......plastic, that it just ruins it for me. I find this particularly distracting when the subject is fetish-oriented and you just get the overwhelming feeling that the models have no clue or interest in what they are doing. Unfortunately it seems most 'real people' are too worried over repercussions to post their own images.

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  3. A lot of selfies seem to be taken in the bathroom , or a cluttered area ; kind of a turn-off. Otherwise, as a child of the 60's, I say "Power to the people!"

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    1. I love the honesty of that.......and enjoy even more the diversity! I actually enjoy the pictures all the more BECAUSE of those tacky backgrounds! It makes it real and gritty. LOL

      And just to be a snarky pain-in-the-ass......I used to love "power to the people" until I realized a lot of those people were idiots. LOL ;-)

      All the best!----KDP

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  4. What about people who sell their own porn? Or, in my case, Spanking porn?

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    1. I would be pretty confident that you are not exploiting yourselves. (Of course having an elaborate mob-oriented exploitation role-play among yourselves could be fun?)

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    2. To reference what you wrote:
      they could do it on their own terms and for their own reasons. And rather than being victims of someone else's exploitation, people could celebrate their own sexuality. It was pretty empowering.

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    3. I am sure it is. Even this blog can feel that way for me at times, so I can only imagine what making video would be like!

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  5. Being a photographer and a great admirer of the female form makes me look at things from different angles. I do not expect much from selfies so am rarely disappointed. Of course any naked woman is great to look at.

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    1. I can't argue with that assessment and sentiment! Sometimes the very aspect of a selfie being somewhat cheesy contributes a lot to its overall charm.

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