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Friday, November 2, 2018

Spanked by Nickki

On the morning of the Halloween Party, Nickki showed up at my house very early to surprise me with a spanking! Rosa was in on the whole thing and acted as witness and adviser. 

In the past, Nickki has contributed towards occasional punishments via the "Discipline Slip" route used by Ana and Marta, so this was the first time she "took matters into her own hands". To be playfully sexy, she wore a leather jacket and boots, which admittedly gave her a much more badass look.

The event took place behind the closed doors of our bedroom with Nickki seated atop the bed, back against the pillows and headboard, exactly as Rosa does. Nickki had the option to execute her spanking in pretty much any way she preferred and it was her decision to employ one of our usual paddles on me fully naked across her lap. At first she had decided to go with just 50 smacks, but she admitted she also had a sort of 'visual goal' in mind for how my butt should look when she was done, and 50 just didn't get me where she wanted. I'm not sure how many I got, but I would guess it was about a hundred.


Considering the loaded implications of Black on White Femdom spanking, you'd think there would be loads of great photos out there of a white guy getting his butt roasted by a woman of color. But there are about 6 good pictures out there that I have found (and used) and that's about it!

The spanking itself was neither brutal nor wimpy. I was definitely pink and tender afterwards but I also was not so sore that the sting lasted for more than an hour or two. A couple of days later, we had dinner with Nickki & Jean, and Nickki sort of lamented that she didn't think she went as hard as she should have. I told her that she was probably right as far as potential severity goes, but that for a "first time" it was just perfect as it was. I assured her that it was definitely a real spanking and stung plenty. However, if she was looking to have me end up like the pictures she's seen of me after one of Rosa's executions of her slips, she would have to realize that Rosa hits harder and with quantity. But we both enjoyed the experience as it was and there was no need to regret anything. Besides, she would always have the opportunity to get me over her lap again anytime she wanted, and build on her experience from this event to get the effect she is looking for. She agreed. 

From my perspective there were a few stand out moments that morning and at dinner a couple of days later:

- I found it added to the experience that Nickki chose to have me naked. Now, to be honest, she has seen me naked before (three times I think) and so there were no surprises there, but each time prior was always associated with skinny-dipping and more of a mutual thing. THIS time it was just me without clothing.......and FOR A SPANKING! (The distinction makes a difference).

- Nickki is very good at teasing me with regard to 'my front'. Every time she has seen me, it has been under circumstances that in no way flattered my dimensions. The first being the worst in freezing cold water and chilly night air! I am also not the kind of guy who goes erect before a spanking. I am of the opposite school where I shrink humbly like the 'little boy about to get it'. And that's the 'me' she was treated to again on Saturday.....which she had no hesitation in pointing out to Rosa in front of me! The thing is I am not huge under the best of circumstances, but I am not embarrassingly tiny either. I'm OK with being average and don't identify my self worth with size. Under these circumstances, I think not being big down there adds to the submissive aspect.  LOL

- Prior to the actual spanking and a couple of times between smacks, Nickki did a sort of palping rub of my bare bottom and back.....a kind of gentle smoothing of hand over skin. It wasn't exactly sexual, but it wasn't totally devoid of being a little sexy either. In fact, it made me feel like an appreciated plaything....which again added to the submissive vibe quite profoundly.

- While the spanking was ostensibly a "Birthday Present", Nickki did use the situation to lecture me over some behavioral traits she warned me to watch in the future.....notably my propensity to answer simple questions with long, detailed answers. ;-)

-It stung! I did not know whether Nickki was going to go all stern and severe or whether she would end up giving one of those tentative, cautious pat-pat spankings that novices are prone to. Nickki gave me a real spanking.....maybe not a brutal one, but it was definitely not entirely easy to take. I yipped honestly at several of her smacks. 

- In talking to both Nickki & Jean after our dinner together, I was left with a feeling of confidence that Saturday would not be an isolated event. Jean is on board and I did let her know that her involvement is totally up to her......whether she prefers to just be a tolerant partner, or even if she decides she wants to be more involved, whether as witness along with Rosa, or even a participant (though this is highly unlikely, I felt it helped prove our point that no one was trying to exclude her) that choice will be hers

- As I mentioned in my October 19th post "Determined Nickki" my personal goal was to end up "end up" LOL with Nickki where her own personal desire to inflict a more painful than average lesson (something Nickki does seem interested in) resulted in me having a rough time taking the spanking she was intent on giving. After this first 'ice-breaker' session, and the conversations that followed, I am renewed in this desire. But, it's a tricky thing when friends spank friends......especially when they are fairly close and truly appreciate one another as Nickki and I do. There is always a worry, probably more so by the dominant party, that going too hard could ruin a relationship. I get that. But as the guy on the submissive end of this, I know that won't happen with us. 

But it's also tricky to want something that isn't going to be easy to deal with in the moment. And as I said in more detail in that 10/19 post, I truly think if Nickki  DID thoroughly roast my ass and had me in sincere leg-kicking distress, it actually could be a very POSITIVE thing for us both. I think it might be especially powerful for people in a situation like ours to reach a point where the dominant friend is utterly confident in dishing out a true bun-buster of a spanking when they want to and where the submissive friend (me) is perennially aware that such a thing could happen at any time withoutmuch honorable wiggle-room to back out. Granted, from my end, the physical discomfort in getting a truly hard spanking is a slightly scary (but in a good way) factor that Nickki or Rosa or even Jean do not have to deal with. But I think it's an essential "price to pay" for an experience that carries some weight.  And with Rosa there as moderator, it is the perfect balance of me not needing to worry about any serious issue, but also knowing I won't be able to back out if things are harder than expected. I can't imagine being Nickki and not having that be a cool aspect to an otherwise equal friendship!

And that's sort of the whole thing. My thanks to Nickki for going through with it, and also to both Rosa and Jean for allowing us our fun. It will interesting to see what happens next time.......which I hope is not too far off. 


17 comments:

  1. I totally get what you're saying in the second to last paragraph. Inevitability--the inability to wiggle your way out--is very compelling, in a slightly morbid way. But, I'm a little surprised to hear you express that, given that you usually insist on the ability to maintain control and place a lot of emphasis on ongoing consent.

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    1. I think it's because this seems securely framed in a sort of 'consensual game'. Not that Nickki can't use this authority seriously, but given the nature of it, even the 'serious stuff' is not going to be anything that I fear would make me feel victimized.

      I think it's different with Rosa, not because I don't trust her, but because as a 24/7 couple, there is more potential for issues to arise that I may feel unresolved about in the context of discipline.

      So, you're right about me....it's just that this situation seems to be structured in a way that doesn't challenge any sense of fairness. And in the context of a D/s 'game', with Nickki having the upper hand, any 'unfairness' would be part of the package.

      (I can accept quite a lot if I can wrap my head around it all, and this doesn't seem to have much potential for anything I couldn't handle. BUT....if it DID happen, you are correct in that I would extricate myself from the situation and clearly lay out my reasons for withdrawal of consent. So consent is truly an ongoing thing. It can change at any time.)

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    2. I guess you could simply say that this for me is more about ending up spanked harder than I might want in a playful context, or even in a friendly disciplinary one.......but I would have an issue if the reason FOR it was something that I would find hurtful or inappropriate. It's kind of like all a person who would find my struggling amusing would have to do is say that I was going to 'get it' just because they wanted to, and they'd have my consent more easily than if they concocted a reason I found personally upsetting.

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  2. I agree that in this context 'consent' is always key. We are happy for you all. Tentative for a first time, yes but since the first seed is sewn... There sounds to be room in the future for something that has you doing a long spanking dance. I'm sure we all hope for more in the future. Congratulations on what maybe the first of many. John G.

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    1. Thanks, John. Only time will tell as they say. And of course, i will keep you all posted on any new developments.

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  3. Witnesses to the spanking add to the experience and it sounds like the ladies quite enjoyed that. You are indeed a lucky man KD!

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    1. Thank you, Glen. I would agree. My heart goes out to others who would wish to have similar adventures and somehow can't. The only thing I can say to those folks though is that if you really want something to happen, you have to make a serious effort to bring it about. It won't always work, but it definitely won't work without that effort.

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  4. Sounds like a great experience. Also, Rosa and my girlfriend seem to have the same favourite spanking position :D

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    1. It's a winner of a position for a lot of reasons!

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  5. That was obviously a new experience for you, it apparently went pretty well overall.

    You're right about the paucity of black-on-white F/M spanking images, either videos, drawings or photographs, based on what I recollect about hardly ever seeing any of them on the internet--or even before the personal computer era, in videos or literature from companies like Nu-West/Leda.

    Sometime I must attempt to convince my darling 'vanilla' wife to try that OTK position on the bed which you described, I'm assuming that it's quite comfortable for a female spanker... --C.K.

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    1. I'd say 'relatively' new as experiences go. I've had similar but this was the first time with Nickki.

      I have never understood how places that make their money based on satisfying trends so often miss huge opportunities for themes that would resonate with so many people. But then again I've never understood why it took so long for restaurants to offer something other than Coors on their beer menu.

      The 'across the lap-while on a bed' position is truly the best of all possible worlds for intimate spanking. It is not uncomfortable for either party.....except for perhaps the sub, but only where the discomfort is intended. And it's so easy. No rearranging of furniture, no awkward dangling and issues in balance, restraint, and control. Just perfect.

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  6. the consensual game is key to relationships like this in my mind.

    my wife our friends and i all talk about things we would like to do or try. i have slightly less equal say as im naked while we talk so they can see my arousal a topic may bring. they know they can press me further if i say no but am aroused.

    agreeing sometimes months in advance to activities scenes allows the ladies to be the character that is cruel unfair or malicious. its a role ultimately. ive given consent. in the moment however it hurts its scary its mean.


    adding to the witness thought yes having people watch definately adds yo the humiliation and submission

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    1. Thanks for your input on this. Everything you say rings true in how situations like this have usually played out in my own experience. The key is of course having the desire to play openly and also the courage and openness to make scenarios like this possible...... and then finding others of the same mind.

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  7. So...
    You finally got your due!

    That makes me happy!

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  8. Wow quite interesting I enjoyed revisiting it through your eyes. That’s for being a friend of mystic. My mind is left with a need to reschedule another wailing but this time with what you desire I want to be that girl in the picture a bad ass on top of a RED ass lolololol

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    1. Thanks for stopping by and commenting, dear!

      As for your plan to schedule another....and more severe.....round? Well, what can I say? I have little doubt that you are eager to let your evil side loose without holding back.....and I realize what that is probably going to mean for me (and my butt ), and even how we see each other going forward. It's understandably a little scary (again in a good way) from my perspective, but as I wrote, I do think it will ultimately be a positive new aspect for our friendship.

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