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Thursday, February 27, 2020

Grafitti

Over the weekend Rosa and I went on another of our hikes on a trail in the Watchung Mountains. It's a trail we had never taken before and at the end of one turnaround, there is a landmark water tower. Given our playful mood at the time and what was written on one side, Rosa and I took the opportunity for an unusual photo op for a nature hike:

That's Rosa using visual aids to express her feelings to me. 

Things have been up and down around here lately. We have engaged in some stuff a couple of weeks back, but then had setbacks when life got in the way of where we want to head. For example, a while back Rosa and Marta privately discussed the "traditional year end punishment" of which Marta said she would like to once again contribute to. I was to get 500 smacks. And about a week ago Rosa said she would do 250 one night and the rest the following night. I got the first 250, but then stuff just kept getting in the way. Then we had planned to do them the morning of "Asian Night" so that Rosa could potentially let Marta know what happened before she got there for dinner so she could tease me. Not only did that not happen due to the business of the day, but it STILL hasn't happened.

Even on Sunday, during the hike I mentioned earlier, we literally planned a very nice night of "play".......including the second installment from Marta......but we ended up arguing over something quite trivial just before bedtime which ruined the mood entirely for me. In fact, Rosa still seemed willing but I was so far out of that mindset by then that I declined.

We are better now and last night Rosa even asked for a pedicure and  so I gave her a deluxe one......but then it just got late and she ended up falling asleep before we could do anything else. So, that's where we're at: a sort of limbo of both chance and our own making. I am not sure why it seems we have lost our 'steam' but I do know I am enviously amazed at the regularity with which some people live this lifestyle. 

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  1. We've had similar distractions. Different in content and type but not in effect. I sometimes feel that me blogging about DD has become the epitome of, "Those who can do and those who don't, teach." When I look at the reality of our current living situation and my current job situation, it is going to be two to three weeks minimum before we can even approach getting back on track, and even then "getting back on track" to some more substantial and pervasive FLR experimentation is probably out for 2020 unless and until career and travel wind down.

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    1. Well, at least by admitting that you qualify as a teacher with real life experience as opposed to wannabes who post like lifestyle experts. LOL In my case though it hasn't helped that the last few times we did play around, Rosa decided against any o's for me and now that we are finding our opportunities being hampered, my 'frustration factor' is in the red zone LOL.

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    2. I tried the "no O" thing for awhile, because I convinced myself that it kept my energy level higher. And, it kind of did. But, also became convinced that it led to an overall drop in my sexual capacity. I've read lots of the chastity and tantra stuff about orgasm denial, and it all sounds great in theory and I kind of did feel like my erotic energy increased in a way that was pretty pleasant. But, I think there is a "use it or lose it" aspect to male sexuality, i.e. erections and performance. I also think the data is pretty irrefutable that more orgasms = lower prostate cancer risk.

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    3. Eh, it's not for everyone. I have my reasons why it works for me, but it's not something I would recommend across the board. And while it can be challenging at times, I prefer it to being allowed freedom. Besides, if it gets really bad to a point of distraction, all I have to do is tell Rosa and she would probably relent because she knows I don't 'ask' unless I really mentally need it.

      As for tantra? No appeal for me whatsoever.

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  2. there is a very definite submissive quality to having your O fate decided by another. she is in control she decides. it can be torturous giving lots to her knowing i dont get to.

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    1. Yes there is that appeal, but for me it’s more than that. Perhaps one day I will do a post on it.!

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  3. I hope you can get back on track soon. O denial is something I don't understand, maybe because it's more difficult for me to achieve one.

    What a coincidence, Just this minute, I put up a post about graffiti.

    Hugs,
    Hermione

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    1. Thanks, Hermione. O denial is definitely not for everyone, but for me, total O freedom would likely lead to depression eventually. I know, I'm weird. LOL

      I'll check out your post.

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  4. I feel your pain (or in this case lack thereof), as the lifestyle I desperately crave just doesn't get a chance.
    Christmas day provided wonderful promise of acceptance by my wife, maybe Mistress, to make this a real thing. We had been empty nesters for a year and had some good times. That day even included the first ever session in what I had fantasized could be our "dungeon", a cistern under the kitchen floor of our old house. Oh happy day!
    Two weeks ago our mentally ill adult son suddenly moved back in after a year leaving with a girl friend. We always thought it would not last, but still I am so sad that the potential of living out a FLR is significantly diminshed.
    We do practice orgasm control for me. I know that I am out of sorts for days after an orgasm and I also like having something that she, in a small, controls me with. It's been three months since my last O. With the new housemate, it may be awhile longer.

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    1. Sorry to hear about all of that, Bill. The good news is you have a willing spouse.....as do I and some lucky others, but I definitely get the frustration over chance interruptions to our plans. It sometimes feels like some external force is just fucking with me! LOL

      Good luck on the O denial. Three months is a significant period.

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