Readers here might think that due to recent posts, that not a lot of spanking or DD was going on between Rosa and me. But that is not the case. There has been quite a bit, and today I would like to tell you all about it. But first let’s lay out a kind of theme for it all: consent. A while back I wrote the following excerpts on morningstar’s blog:
“I would venture to say that for me at least, the pre-spanking mindset is actually more important than aftercare.....though that too can be important.”
“And while I agree that even a planned or upcoming play session is going to be off to a disastrous start if there's some issue floating around. But here at least, it's very easy to admit the mood is off and postpone without any fuss or bad feelings. Rosa and I are pretty reasonable people.”
“Where things can get sticky, and have in the past, are those "real" spankings…………………….I am admittedly the oddball in that a lot of ( DD-ers) believe that if it's real, you go along with it no matter how you feel at the time. That just won't work for me. The resentment would kill the love between us. So what we do is a different approach. If the "real thing" is a somewhat minor "no-brainer" with no complications, even if I'm not 'in the mood', I accept the spanking without much fuss. (think a "make the bed" rule where not for any good reason I don't do it. If confronted I have no real reason to object to a trip across Rosa's lap.)”
“But some serious issues are complicated and loaded with emotions on both sides. The current issue here is precisely one of these. We will not just proceed with something serious if I am resistant. BUT even my resistance is not by itself sufficient for the issue to drop. So what happens? Well Rosa summed it up perfectly a day ago when during a serious talk about something I did that was very serious but very colored by mitigations of many kinds, she felt she needed to address it with an eventual punishment. So rather than just declare it, she just "put it out there" and gave me time to wrap my head around it. Initially I was very defensive but discussions with my daughter and Son-in-Law and also with my Monster, Ana, AND with my own softening on not just seeing my side but opening up to Rosa's, I came around to the conclusion that Rosa was indeed right to want to address it. And I knew that when she did it was not going to be fun. Rosa told me that she knew this would happen. She said "I know you're not a jerk, but I also know you well enough now to know that sometimes you just need some time to process everything." Amazing stuff! Rosa knows that while on paper she has the authority to eliminate this step, but she also knows two things. Doing so endangers the relationship but waiting a bit for acceptance provides her with the retribution and justice she is seeking, only with me now a willing penitent. She prefers that. A serious punishment spanking from her is going to hurt plenty. It is not going to be fun. But if I go into it feeling she is right rather than feeling this is unfair, she feels....as do I.....the punishment becomes a very effective process. So.....be tough and rigid and achieve little, or be reasonable but firm, wait a bit for acceptance.....and have an opportunity for extremely productive punishment.”
There is actually a real story to go along with this declaration of principle, and that is the subject of today’s post.
After my Covid recovery was well underway and Rosa and I were both feeling better, I was “in a mood” and asked for a ‘just because’ spanking. Rosa agreed quickly and after I was across her lap I found out why. It seems that Rosa had been suppressing a desire to punish me for certain aspects of my behavior during my illness. But being a sticky subject, she had been waiting for the right time to bring it up. Hearing me ask for a spanking, convinced her that this was indeed that time………..not for the punishment itself, but just to bring up her thoughts on the matter.
Before giving me a short play spanking (which hurt like hell since I was so out of practice) she told me what about the behavior she found unacceptable. Now, at the time I was very defensive and felt like I was not really thinking clearly when I acted as I did, but Rosa held firm to two things: one was that this wasn’t going to happen right away since she wanted me “on board”, and second that her desire to do this was fairly adamant.
I had to really think on this, but as I mentioned in my excerpts above, a lot of discussion with others brought me around to seeing her point. A point shared by those closest to me. While my daughter and SIL are aware of our lifestyle our discussion never ventured into Rosa’s desire to punish me, but just dealt with the ‘general scariness’ of my behavior, and in that regard they sided fully with Rosa.
Later I engaged in a text discussion with my Monster, Ana, where the punishment aspect WAS clearly brought up. By this time I was already wavering and seeing much more of Rosa’s point, but Ana helped me fully embrace it. Ana felt that her mother was quite right about my behavior but also saw enough of my side to concede that my feelings should also be allowed to be aired fully beforehand. BUT once aired, I should then accept the very clear consequences.
I even asked Ana if this had nothing to do with Rosa and was just her decision, what she herself thought, and her firm response was that she too thought serious punishment was called for. That admission led to some discussion where I asked her if she truly felt that way would she object to me telling Rosa about our conversation and her opinion and would she also want to contribute to it? She readily consented and suggested an additional “400 from her” could be added to whatever her mother decided.
A short time later, I asked Rosa if we could talk about what was becoming known as “the Covid Punishment” and she agreed. We talked for a long time and covered a lot of issues. And it was in that discussion where Rosa made her comment about knowing that if she put this idea out there for me to be able to digest, that ultimately I would see her side and agree to the consequences. I felt so close to her in that moment! She really understood me and the efficacy of a punishment when both parties were resolved to it as an appropriate measure.
The next day Rosa said we were going to get started BUT she did not want to end with Ana’s add-on, but begin with it so she could conclude with her own. And so I got a hard ( specifically asked for ) 400-swat spanking that had me sore for days.
I was very worried when Rosa told me that hers would total 1000 spanks divided into three installments since sequential spankings are a living hell. Luckily for me circumstances intervened and I got several days of respite before Rosa started in with her punishment. The first spanking totaled 400 spanks with the next two comprising 300 each. All of her first 400 were hard. All were serious. This was clearly no joke and no play session.
The following two were supposed to follow shortly over the course of the next two days, but circumstances thwarted this plan. As a result, it took a while for each installment to take place, but they eventually did, with the last one happening this past Saturday.
Interestingly, on Sunday, now feeling fresh and forgiven, Rosa and I engaged in a day of intimacy. Rosa suggested I wear pink frillies in honor of the day and later had such a powerful O she got a butt cramp from it! (we laughed so much over that....after it subsided since it wasn't that funny at the time.....that she told me I could tell you all about it.)
She even spanked me again......for fun......though it hurt more than usual because of the spanking soreness from Saturday.
And yes, I finally got that O for myself! And it kind of resembled this: