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Friday, May 7, 2021

More on O-Control

Thursday provided an interesting opportunity to revisit the topic of chastity that I covered pretty extensively back in December. The one absent voice on the subject back then was Ana, and due to an early morning event that prompted me thinking of the issue, and the fact that she and I later got to spend quite a bit of time together driving to a seaside National Park and then biking the trail there, we finally had that discussion. 

That morning Rosa and I had both gotten up early and I noticed that as she was checking her phone she was kind of rubbing my leg with her foot. Not one to ignore a hint, I spun around and began kissing those gorgeous toes of hers. 

Now it’s been a while since my last O and I was thinking it would be nice to get some attention….even if it was just a bit of teasing, so I made some gestural hints and when those were ignored, a more direct attempt at taking her hand and directing it to the part of me that was longing for some stimulation. She just said that she had to start work soon but in the next breath asked that I give her an O. I playfully scolded her for saying she had no time to tease me but she felt there was enough time for me to treat her to an orgasm. She accused me of being difficult and seeing the playful dominance she was projecting, relented and obliged. When she was done, she said, “OK I have to work now.” And there I remained still frustrated.

Ah to be mischievously dismissed! Such a power trip for the lady in charge!

This highlighted the reality of living as I do. Having an O or even just getting attention is never a given, but the expectation to deliver one is. Such is a sub’s life! LOL.

Anyway this certainly got me thinking about my chastity lifestyle and it reminded me that I never got Ana’s take on it since she was ridiculously busy at the time. Thursday provided a perfect opportunity to discuss it…...and we did.

To be somewhat complete AND concise, here are the main takeaways from our talk:

-Ana began by making it clear that she herself would NEVER submit to such regulation. I told her that given her dominant personality that just made sense and I would never expect her to be controlled this way.

-But she very quickly followed up by adding that if we just look at our relative personalities and even our roles with each other, she feels such control is not a bad or even strange thing for me or even other submissive types who genuinely benefit from such control.

-She added that as a dominant personality she can relate to being in control of something like this and feels such control is appealing and that she even can see how her decisions for something like this would be very similar to how she views being dominant in a behavioral/punishment situation.  Basically she was saying that while she would never be controlled this way, she’d certainly have no problem with HAVING such control, and that she would be good at it and be very discerning in her decision-making. (She sounded like her mother! LOL)

-I admitted that many motives and factors can influence such authority and that circumstances can make the decision process range from beneficial, to practical, to whimsical, and all the way to mischievous torment. (again, very much how Rosa sees it.) Ana completely agreed, saying that those would be the things she would consider when making such a decision for someone else, and admitted that while practical and loving regulation is sort of the default mode for this,( in order to ensure and maintain the trust of the submissive party) if the people involved were of a certain mindset, then even using tease and denial as pure playful torture was an equally valid choice. She readily admitted to enjoying my suffering at times when I confessed being in a particularly tormented state of frustration after being subjected to 'tease & denial'. Texts revealing such a state for me that coincided with times she herself felt she was suffering through some exam or project at school were particularly appealing for her.

-And lastly, we discussed MY motives for doing this and again she made it clear that despite any occasional doubts that I might have on having relinquished this personal form of gratification to the authority of another, it really is a good thing for me to have trusted others, and now her mother, to have final say in what I get or don’t get. 

One thing that I revealed in the process of having this discussion was that while I have given this authority to several others over the course of my lifetime, it was never as simple as thinking: ‘you’re the Top so you are definitely qualified to have this authority’. Instead my choices have been selective and rooted in a feeling that the person I was entrusting, WAS a talented decision-maker and not just nimble with a paddle. I realized that if someone was dominant but I found their powers of discernment lacking, I might play with them in some ways, but I would not hand over this power to them. Ana said that made sense and fell in line with what she was saying about having to be good at this and having a clear purpose and vision in being the administrator of someone else’s sexual activity. 

It was a good talk, and...........ironically........... much later, Rosa, after some persistent near-begging from me, treated me to a much-needed O. 

Tuesday, May 4, 2021

Busy time

It's that time of year where I just have a lot to do. Today I will be cleaning my larger pond. Yesterday I babysat. And over the weekend we entertained to some degree Friday, Saturday, and Sunday.  (Hooray for vaccinated people!) In short:

My Monster, Ana is home for a week. We have plans to go biking on Thursday.

I finished that nasty garden project and feel very good about the achievement.

The painting I did for my grandson is now hanging over his crib. His birthday is approaching rapidly!

Made some more new drinks but since drink recipes seem to be as popular as an anti-vaxxer at a party thrown by normal people, I probably won't bother posting them. 

On a TTWD-note, I asked for an O from Rosa this past weekend but got turned down. I'm feeling the need and it's making me a bit more subby-minded than usual. We also discussed playing with the pegging machine sometime soon. Rosa seems amused and willing. 

If you're a regular used to comments from me on your own blogs, please know I haven't had much time lately. I will get back into it soon I hope. 

And that's about it for now. I've posted shots of my arbor/deck before, but here is one from this weekend from the perspective of sitting at the table under it and looking out:

Thursday, April 29, 2021

Julie & Omar

In keeping with the ongoing theme of warm weather cocktails and also of my recent experimentation with less typical juice choices, here are two variations of my own on tamarind juice:

The Tamarummy

2 oz clear or brown rum

1 oz Amaretto

3 oz. tamarind juice (again, I just went with Goya)

dash of bitters

Shake ingredients with enough ice to fill a 7 oz glass and pour without straining. I garnished this with a skewered mint leaf and orange peel.

While the Tamarummy isn't bad, and while I don't usually use brown liquors for warm weather drinks, Rosa and I found this bourbon variant to be more interesting, with the whiskey tones working well with the tamarind:

Julie & Omar

1 oz Drambuie

2 oz bourbon

3 oz tamarind juice

dash of bitters

Make it and garnish it the same as with the Tamarummy.

Tamarind doesn't foam as much as passion fruit, but it's still a decent-looking concoction. This is a Tamarummy, but a Julie & Omar looks very much the same......just tastes a bit more interesting.

Wednesday, April 28, 2021

Mushroom wiggle

 As promised, some cocktail ideas for the warmer weather. To start things off, one of my own that already has gotten a bit popular not only with Rosa, but others as well:

Mushroom Wiggle

1 oz Licor 43

1 oz clear rum

3 oz Passion fruit juice (I used Goya)

dash of orange bitters

Shake vigorously with some ice and strain into a fancy 5 oz glass. The agitation will cause the juice to foam naturally. Garnish with lemon.

There are more which I will share as I find time. I have been extremely busy and working harder than someone my age with a bad back should......but the garden project I needed to do, is almost done. In fact, I hope to finish it today. (Everything hurts, BTW. I feel like a truck hit me and the driver wondered what the noise was, backed up over me to check, didn't see me, and drove over me again to resume his trip.)

Monday, April 26, 2021


Another typically busy Monday for me. Today I deliver the painting to my Grandson along with a little cheap bottle of bubble liquid with wand. It's a nice day so we should have some fun with that. 

This week I will put up some new cocktail suggestions appropriate for the oncoming war weather. Some are things I found, others are my own concoctions.

In the meantime, here's a bit of vintage wit from B. Kliban:

Friday, April 23, 2021

Legacy work

Before my grandson was born, my daughter asked if I would do a painting for his room similar to the one I did for her back when she was a baby. I agreed but said it might take me a while to execute the request. I recently finished the piece just with some time to spare before reaching his first birthday. 

The painting is more of an illustration, like you'd see in a children's book, than a serious work of art, and depicts a scene from my SIL's favorite childhood book: My Side of the Mountain. It was this story that was requested as the theme of the painting, but other than that, the actual scene was up to me. 

This is the finished piece. It is 30" X 40" in acrylic:

It's not the typical thing I show here, but I was pleased with it and felt like it might be worth sharing. I would be particularly curious to hear from anyone who has read the book, since I read it before coming up with this scene, and tried to be very faithful to the details the author describes. 

Thursday, April 22, 2021


Recently my dear buddy, Merry used the phrase "batshit crazy" and it coincided quite unexpectedly with an E-Bay score this very morning. (no it wasn't a box full of expired Xanax NOR a crate of roosting bats.)  What it was was a set of black-stemmed glasses. 

Very similar to this style, except a less rounded bowl and it's a set of 4 rather than six.

OK, so now you must be scratching your head thinking, "KDP has either lost it, or HE is the link to "batshit"." Not so fast. There IS a connection....which also ties in to a recent comment on Fondles' about shopping at thrift stores.....and possibly even ANOTHER older comment dealing specifically with my fondness for bats. So here is the thread of events that tie this all in:

1: A while back I am shopping at my favorite thrift store and manage to get a set of six of these same glasses for like $1 each, maybe $1.50. 

2: To me they are crying out to be made into classy/creepy table glassware to go with our Halloween dinner setting......but they need help.

Our Halloween table from this year. I never loved the plain glasses. And you can see the bat theme already starting. 

3: I order a set of inexpensive silver bat charms from Amazon.

4: When they arrive I modify them with some grinding so they can be securely glued to the glasses with strong, durable, two-part epoxy.

5: They are coming along nicely when..........I drop one. (damned arthritis)

6: I now have 5 cool glasses, and am not liking that I could very likely not have enough for a typical 6-person dinner party. However, these are not current and very specific. The odds of me finding these again at a good price are not in my favor. A happy project has turned a little sour.

7: Enter E-Bay and a cooperative vendor who was willing to accept a lower offer for his used glasses. (Still way more than what I got the originals for, but also less than what I have seen them go for.)

And so, with one confirmation and payment, my glasses should be on their way.....and if I don't drop any THIS time, I'll have a set of 9.....which should be adequate for our needs. 

And what does the finished product look like? this:

I have some plastic Halloween glasses but I kind of prefer glass. Nice Halloween glasses are out there, but they are VERY expensive. Some of the better ones I've seen go for as much as $12 a glass, sometimes more. This very economical project was the the perfect solution. Not too over-the-top, a little classy, definitely bat-encrusted, and quite frugal. Now I just need to wait until October to use them!