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Tuesday, October 27, 2015

Happy Halloween

Best wishes to all for a creepy, kinky, dark, and fun Halloween. You don't even need to dress up! Just look at those two above. Not a stitch on and still enjoying the spirit of the day..........with a little candle wax.

Anyone here ever play around with wax? It's an easy and very creative way to cause sting, feel dominant or submissive......and even be a bit artistic. 

Thursday, October 22, 2015

Queen(ing) of Halloween

If you haven't already put up your Halloween had better get carving! You have about one week left! Just take Hester's cue and find yourself a nice queening seat and devoted slave and you'll be the happiest pumpkin carver in town.....regardless of how the jack-o-lantern turns out!

Any readers out there have a queening chair? And if you do, where's the attention usually focused?  

We have one. It's a regular old dining chair with a nice oval cut out of the cushioned seat. For appearances we keep a regular seat on top of the modified one. The chair is in our bedroom and looks so innocent. 

Sunday, October 18, 2015

Hierarchy versus Equality

Once you embark on a DD FLR, is 'equality' an obsolete notion? Granted a BDSM M/s or TPE, and even D/s relationships are based on intentional inequality. Is DD different? Many would say it is, but I'm not so sure. Granted there might be more sharing and negotiating in a DD arrangement than a more extreme relationship, but doesn't the mere fact that one party has disciplinary authority over the other substantially tip the scales?

The thing about equality is that it is a quantitative  absolute. If you have two equal things in balance, you need only add one grain of sand to one side to tip the scales. I suppose once one embraces the inequality, then everyone can argue or evaluate the degree of the inequality. That I can understand better than maintaining the notion of egalitarianism by virtue of qualifying the balance by saying, "well we just have different roles, but they balance each other out." That just seems like a rationalization for someone reluctant to accept inequality as a valid option.

Thursday, October 15, 2015

Diogenes today

If Diogenes were alive today, he probably would have long given up on his search for an honest man, and perhaps taken refuge in Internet porn. Poor old bugger, the mendacity that he'd find there would only further frustrate him. Yes, I speak of.....Photoshop.

I'm not much of a standard porn admirer, finding most of it to be either distasteful....or outright boring. Still, being a guy, I am stimulated by visual imagery. What I look for are images that touch upon my kinkier interests. I have already posted my essay on the Search for the Perfect Spanking Photo. In gathering photos for the piece, I encountered a world of fakery. But while disingenuous, play-acted scenes of concocted D/s scenarios played out badly by paid 'professionals' are one common pitfall, there are also a lot of images that aren't even vaguely real. They are engineered.

I even removed a picture from my essay that I had initially found so adorable and, given the skill with which it was altered, plausible.......though admittedly improbable. But a few days later I came across the photo as it existed before someone Photoshopped it. I was so disgusted I just deleted it.  

For me, and I suppose many others as well, the notion of having one's kink publicly exposed is quite exciting. Since it happens so rarely, yet is of great interest, clever image manipulators have found they can create what fate so infrequently provides. Some may not be bothered by this. One could say, "what's the difference between a provocative drawing and a Photoshopped picture?" And I suppose they'd have a point.....but it is an issue for me. I approach the drawing as a creation, but I approach the photo as something snatched from the real world with a camera, and I don't like being deceived.

If you are a fellow FLR/DD aficianado or practitioner you may likely enjoy the notion of male chastity. One of the most frequently concocted images is that of the locked male walking on some public nude beach with their partner. I will tell you now that I will bet you that ANY image you find along these lines has been Photoshopped. The only pictures with a locked male that seem genuine are the obvious professional studio offerings.

But chastity is not the only victim of this fraud. The picture I removed was of a thonged lady crossing the street with her partner and covering what appeared to be a spanked behind with her hands. Well, in the original photo, she is evidently embarrassed enough by her skimpy swimsuit to be trying to cover her cheeks with her hands, but not due to any residual post-spanking pinkness. I have encountered several images of publicly exposed pink bottoms that all turned out to be Photoshopped versions of images gleaned from naturist blogs.

In addition to chastity and spanking, I have encountered pictures of peeing ladies who were not urinating in their original photos. (Maybe the shutter was snapped in succession and these are before stream and after? LOL) And, of course, there are those celebrity heads that always seem to find their way onto bodies not their own. And did you ever hear the expression, "those jeans look so tight they must have been painted on?"  Well there is a blog catering to "micro bikinis" that seems to Photoshop a bikini pattern onto previously nude models......perhaps because no real woman could wear one of those things without their nipples popping out with ever step. 

The worst thing I've encountered is the "assembled photo". This is where the entire scenario is made more intense by adding images into a photo that did not exist in the original. Some are cleverly concocted while others are crude attempts at simulating embarrassing situations where none had existed. And some just look like a kid went at a porn magazine with scissors and paste.

So beware of Photoshop! If an image seems too cool to be true.....hit the right tab key and select : 'search Google for this image'. Scroll to the end and you will most likely find the image as it originally appeared. Of course, you could also intentionally avoid doing that and just enjoy the illusion. I would not think less of you. It's just not for me.

Here's an example of one of the more 'believable' public chastity shots. Since they are alone in the picture and the lady's pose suggests a proud calling of attention to the gentleman's privates, it did seem possible that perhaps they were the real deal and she was enjoying showing off his cage. But....alas, no. After seeing the original I also noticed that the Photoshopper did not adjust the shadow and it should have occurred to me initially that the shadow on his thigh does not match the cage......though it does suggest the organ presented in the original.There is one additional thing I've noticed in all of these concocted public chastity pictures that seems both a disappointing oversight as well as a huge clue that the situation is fake. None of the ladies are wearing keys. If you are going to "go public" to show off your control and ownership of your man's parts, wouldn't you flaunt your key as well as his lock? Flaunting the key is something even my Rosa does. So why take the time to Photoshop a CB onto a guy, but no key onto the lady? So, I challenge any reader to find a genuine 'public chastity image' not made by professional models. I'll post it right here with full credit to the person who found it! (Good luck!'ll need it.)

Monday, October 12, 2015

Play nicely...or else!

Since I have somewhat promised to keep you folks informed not just of site additions, but also when Rosa takes me to task for some slip-up, I do have another brief update. Yesterday morning I woke to Rosa instructing me to bring her a particular paddle. It seems she took exception to the tone of my teasing the night before. On one hand she admitted that she knew I probably wasn't being truly serious about some of the things I was tossing at her, but she also said that (perhaps due to the three glasses of barleywine ale I had) my tone was a bit too sharp and sarcastic. In all honesty, she was right, because for whatever reason, I just felt a bit cantankerous even though I wasn't being serious. I do have the tendency to be a bit acidic even when playing.

Well, whether too serious, or just too pushy with my teasing, I got a brief but sharp reminder to be a bit more respectful in the future. (We have no rule forbidding teasing, because we both enjoy it. But everything still needs to be 'friendly'. She found my teasing sharp and hurtful.) It was not the worst spanking I've ever gotten, but she wasn't playing either, and she scolded me very emphatically to never say the kinds of things I had said to her.....joking or not...........again.

Misbehaving age-old problem.

Saturday, October 10, 2015

New additions.

I've added two new pieces to a new "non-fiction" category on the main website's story section.  One is a serious 'memoir' of sorts, recounting my recollection of the time I came out to my mother about the lifestyle that Rosa and I live. What had started as a 'now or never' confession in the hopes of at least some level of understanding and acceptance, ended with an unexpected level of support that could only be described as "endorsement". (A very surprising thing coming from one's own mother.)

Artwork by Jay-Em

The second piece is a bit of a lighthearted poke at the world of the Internet F/f Spanking Photo. It's a combination of revelation of what I personally look for, mixed with a bit of teasing at what's actually out there. The piece has several examples of the the Good, the Bad, and the just plain Hysterical. Even though it's presented as a finished piece, I may very well be adding to it as I encounter new photos that trigger a strong reaction. Here's one example from the piece of one pic I can't look at without snickering:

So convincing, eh? And remember.....these are 'pros'. People actually got paid for this.

Thursday, October 8, 2015


Well, even with a few days left in the poll, it appears the clear unanimous choice is that I let my readers in on when I'm punished. Not one person voted otherwise thus far. (You little thrill seekers.)

Well as your luck would have it, (because my butt doesn't feel very lucky at all ) there's already an episode to share. Yesterday, in an effort to deal with multiple past infractions of mostly attitude that went unchecked.....but accumulating, Rosa and I discussed how to set me back on course.

Now, normally when a serious punishment is in the offing, we tend to discuss things beforehand. Things like issues from the past and expectations for the future. Last night we did exactly that. I won't bore you all with the entire discussion but the gist was that we both agree we need to tighten things up. Essentially we both feel the leniency that Rosa extended during a particularly stressful period recently, while very understandable and considerate, also created issues of its own. Therefore, while not intending to be a martinet, Rosa is going to take a firmer grip on the reins.

Last night was a 'preliminary'. It wasn't even directed at the past issues which Rosa says she will definitely address in the near future, but rather meant to set the tone. This was what she called a 'warm up'...........but not a spanking warm up in the usual sense, but rather a demonstration of what was going to eventually follow.

Now sometimes we take our lifestyle with a dollop of humor....other times we get to the gritty core. Last night was pretty serious. I received two separate and very hard spankings. Our spankings are done mostly in our bedroom with Rosa laying against the pillows on the headboard and me, fully naked, over her lap. The punishment weapon of choice is a hefty lucite paddle that really hurts.

Rosa does not do warm-ups even for play....and certainly not for punishment, so I was wriggling and yelping from the first swat. I can always tell when she is serious....and let me tell you......she was serious! She also knows I can eventually numb-out during a really long spanking, so to keep me focused, she separated the spanking into two parts. The first was bad enough and left me really sore, but then after an hour or so had passed, it was time for part 2. That one was horrible. She spanked just as hard but now all on top of a sore bottom. Now Rosa likes to spank, and I'm sure even though she was serious, she probably enjoyed spanking me and even had some fun doing it. But from my end, dear reader, be assured......there was nothing fun about it.

[I offer RedRump's illustration to show the flavor of what transpired last night, even though the details vary a bit. What I liked about this illustration is the obvious emotion being shown by both Top and bottom. She isn't playing and he isn't having any fun. This is no "50 Shades" role-play.]

So here I am the morning after, sitting on a still burning bottom, and sharing this all with you. Rosa has already texted me with my "to do" list for today, and feeling as I do......both mentally and physically......I have no desire to do anything other than please her utterly. And, as I said earlier..... yesterday was just a warm-up introduction to the actual specific punishments to follow. (I just hope my butt can recover a bit before that happens.)

Tuesday, October 6, 2015

New poll question

I've added a poll question because I wish to know what you, my readers, want. I am not shy about revealing occasional personal events (even if they do involve punishments for misbehavior). I love my Honey and do try to obey her......but I am far from perfect.

But while some blogs are purely personal, this one did not start out with that intent. Still, in my profile I clearly state that I live in a mutually-desired FLR with DD consequences. I am not ashamed of that......and Rosa definitely isn't. (She fully believes, like the young lady in the anime-style cartoon [not one of mine] above, that life would be so much better if I just always did what she said.) So if you would like to hear about when I get spanked and for what, just answer accordingly. But if you'd like to see the blog stay just as an "issue & site update" source, choose that option.

Sunday, October 4, 2015

Authority at any age

The punchline may be a bit extreme, but the concept is valid. Does age really have anything to do with who is on which end of a spanking? It seems to me that if you've made peace with being the one in need of that form of discipline, the authority figure you submit to can come in any shape, size, or age range. In the cartoon, the young lady with the brush has been the victim of Kyle's forgetfulness. He is clearly guilty and she seems very casually secure and confident in her right to deal with the issue. Does a disciplinarian really need anything more than that?