A storm in NJ has interrupted our Spring-like Winter with a vengeance. The good news is my little Monster, Ana got to come home a day sooner, and Rosa may also be leaving work early. So....I'll have both of my honeys around me and safe!
Because Ana had the morning free, we decided to do our first 'Weekly Review' this morning rather than tomorrow. The good news is that I passed, but she did not feel I was deserving of any significant treat either, only a small one ( and that was only after I reminded her that neutral outcomes are not nearly as effective as punishment or reward....even if the reward is just a token 'pat on the head').
As we settled in for her weekly pedicure, we discussed what she thought could be improved going forward. Ana said that I handled some annoying situations better than in the past, but she challenged me going forward to 'let go' of the mood these annoyances trigger in me rather than have a 'sad face' afterwards. It's a substantial challenge since I have always been better at 'acting' a particular way than having my expression support that action. (I have always been told that my face tells the world exactly what I'm thinking even as my mouth says something much more diplomatic. I can get in trouble even when saying nothing because of how readily people can read my thoughts.)
I do appreciate Ana's honesty and fairness. I think I'd feel like I couldn't win if she felt that my residual demeanor at times was deserving of punishment. I like to think we should be judged on our actions rather than our expressions. But by the same token , she is trying to help me see that in the real world, even those instinctive facial expressions can have negative impact. She seems determined to help me with this. And I do think after the effort I put into this past week, that I'd resent ending up with a discipline slip in hand to submit to Rosa. So this was good. No punishment, but a definite challenge to try even harder this week ahead.
And here's our "Cupid-of-the-Day" ( I don't have any in snow)
(This one is a little creepy. There is something about Cupid's expression that, coupled with his hair being held, gives me an uneasy feeling.)
Today's story is one of my personal favorites: The Woman of the Well (click to read)
This long, coming-of-age story centers around a boy's curiosity about corporal punishment and his desire to experience it. And again, while a mother/son spanking is not the main focus, it is a theme that eventually leads to the boy being subjected to one. (among others)