Ah, but why hang around with a dishonest masochist?
I don't know if you plan on covering it, but there's something I encounter on a regular basis, and it's becoming an issue for me.
Married or otherwise attached 'monogamous' men:
I have no personal objections to providing discipline to them, but I do object to the fact that they often hide it from their partner/spouse and expect me to be secretive about it. I understand that not all women are willing or able to provide discipline, but by approaching me (or other women) they are putting us in danger.
I don't believe in having a sexual relationship with a submissive unless it's been negotiated, and that takes time, so that's not a worry, but what if she gets suspicious and follows him or has him followed? It can be dangerous.
Hiding such an important aspect of one's life isn't healthy. I can't force a man to do the right thing, but I have morals (don't laugh!) and if I can't ensure my safety and the safety of my Household, what am I supposed to do?
If he can't be honest, should I charge him? I believe a relationship should be give and take, and my question is always if I'm spanking/disciplining/Dominating him, what am I getting out of it? What is he doing for me? Is he washing the car, taking me out for lunch, helping with the housework, running errands? Is that unrealistic of me?
Sorry for dumping on you, but I think you probably have a better understanding of this than most of the men I encounter.
I'm a person with feelings, not a fetish dispensing machine, and I often feel like I'm being used.
I don't expect answers from you,but my hope is that maybe you could remind your readers that hiding things is selfish and dangerous.
Pretty much says it all. Thanks, Merry!