Rosa and I had to drive for hours......which gave us the opportunity to hash out a lot of the things that had been preventing a full reinstatement of what we had earlier (prior to the "Great Stress" period and its aftermath). On paper, at least, we now both seem to be on the same page and it will be a matter of seeing how things play out in real life now.
We stayed at a wonderful Federal Period B&B with a lot of history......and mystery. And we also got to do some guided tour spelunking and antiquing. And, most importantly, just emotionally refreshed ourselves.
One corner of the main room that used to be a stagecoach tavern in the late 1700's and beyond.
Anyway, Rosa explained the things 'holding her back' and I assured her that going back to where we used to be should very logically eliminate those frustrations. Without going into too much boring detail, she was in a sort of emotional "Catch 22" with regard to DD where she was letting things go until they bothered her too much to want to use DD to solve them. And then the growing frustration further prevented her from wanting to use DD for other stuff......which led to more frustration. The solution seemed simple enough: ACT before the behavioral issue becomes more than an annoyance. It seemed to make a lot of sense to her and Rosa admitted that the cycle she was trapped in was NOT working. She felt she could see how just being strict again could be very empowering and solve the problem......and getting away gave her a fresh perspective on being able to do that.
So we shall see. Of course once we settled the serious stuff, there was a atmosphere of relief that led to just a little bit of teasing about who was going to be impacted most by this return to a more structured DD..........pun intended.
As a result, we have already reinstated my requirement to text her each morning so she can monitor me right from the start of each day. And to manage my eagerness to please, she has already expressed her feeling that going back to fewer orgasmic releases might be just the thing to get my mind where it should be. All I said in return was that I would be willing to be kept chaste longer if she felt she could commit to substituting some other forms of rewards and attention as I did as instructed. She thought that was very reasonable.
Now it's just all about seeing how things develop.