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Wednesday, January 23, 2019


As you've probably surmised from my last post and time since my last post.....I've been busy. In fact, I probably have more "irons in the fire"  than usual.....but for me that's a good thing.

Rosa and I have also finally moved past some "life interruptions" to get to Ana's 'Punishment Slip' and I've already received the first installment with many more to come. And Rosa seems particularly motivated to see this through....enthusiastically.

I have been making weekly treks to the Philly area to work on my daughter's new home with many more trips to come and in between I have been working on some 1:12 scale dioramas for my son's main hobby: photographing action figures in a storytelling setting.(and 'yes', this IS a thing! I was amazed to see how many people are out there doing this.)

To give an idea, here are some shots of a warehouse I have been diligently working on. When finished it will allow for shots to be taken from various angles and afford photographic storylines with multiple scenes all within a warehouse setting. (the warehouse proper, a catwalk, an office, and the receiving dock from both indoor and outdoor perspectives.)

An unfinished view of the main space, showing some structure before all of the painting was complete.

The catwalk after some additional painting. (the office to the left still needs to be painted.)

Rather than go crazy with stacked boxes, I made this facade......

....just like those Hollywood western towns with nothing behind them. LOL

The beginnings of the receiving dock platform.

This is the earliest development of the outside of the receiving dock.

Wednesday, January 16, 2019


LIFE: n. 1: all the things we do when we're not dead

2: the things that get in the way of definition 1.

A LOT has happened since my last post, and a lot hasn't happened as well. It seems like just when I think everything is coming together, some unforeseen crap swipes in from the side and takes you out. Don't believe me? Just ask 'the man in the street':

While I'm pretty open here, I also don't feel the need to cover every particular that goes on with our lives outside of DD, but suffice it to say that the "slip issue" while presented and talked about briefly, has stalled due to other competing concerns. As a result I have been spending time working on some projects for my kids and am hoping that the mood shifts back to where it was just one short week ago.

Wednesday, January 9, 2019

Christmas isn't over

Not here anyway. The decorations may be down (I did that on the weekend) but readers here may not know that there was a pretty ugly argument between me and my Monster, Ana the morning of Christmas Eve and the spectre of that incident had been hanging about until about last Thursday when Ana and I had some time to discuss it fully.

As it turns out, Ana was deeply hurt by my treatment of her...which involved a lot of yelling and accusations...all because I was frazzled from preparing for the evening and I misinterpreted one of her texts. But as I am sometimes prone to do, rather than calm down and apologize, I stuck with my feeling that my interpretation of the text was valid, despite both Ana and even Rosa telling me I was overreacting. (Me? Overreact?)

Listening to Rosa in the days that followed and opening my mind up to the possibility that I might be wrong on this one, I sought out Ana's input and what she told me made me feel terrible. A couple of things sort of spoiled her Christmas....but this incident was definitely one of them. But we discussed it more and ended up being 'good'. But not without consequences.

Yes I know this image depicts a boy being spanked instead of an old guy like me, but the fact of the matter is when compared to any other image with some sort of  F/m Christmas spanking theme, THIS one seemed to capture the essence of my situation far more accurately. Conceptually this is far more representative of  my impending consequences for somehow spoiling Christmas than an image that merely gets the ages right. 

Rosa has been working significant extra hours for the last few days with today being the last long day for her. As of tomorrow her schedule returns to normal. And Ana is off to Pittsburgh with her boyfriend to participate in more post-graduate explorations. Yesterday Ana and I spent a good part of the day together, cleaning and talking. More things were settled. And as a result, as she heads off now to make that long drive, there are three discipline slips on Rosa's dresser: one for the Christmas incident, and two for the 2018/2019 punishment/kick-off. But we'll cover the year-end tradition another time. 

We also agreed that I would send Rosa an email now that the slip has been delivered. The email was initially my idea and covered the issues Ana and I discussed.  But Ana also reviewed the email, requested some additions, and then approved its final draft. I will be sending it to Rosa later. Here's what it says:

Hey Honey I wanted to write this so that I could say what I wanted to while I had the nerve so that once sent there'd be no way to retract it. Ana and I discussed Christmas again and it's very clear she was very upset by it and she is going to do a slip. The slip which I have not yet seen, was partially the result of me finally seeing the other side of the whole text/Christmas morning issue and asking her bluntly what her thoughts were about it all. But I say 'partially' because as it turned out she had every intention of exacting a punishment for the incident without ever discussing it with me.... but planned on just quietly rolling it into the "2018/2019" slip she is going to do. She definitely wanted me to get a punishment for it but felt like I might be resistant to it if she made it out separately and she didn't want another confrontation. But bottom line she had already made up her mind that this particular issue deserved a spanking without any input from me. I told her that she was very perceptive about my resistance and that it just took me a longer than usual time to come to see my fault in the incident. It took hearing it from you, and from her, and then rolling it around in my own head to get there, but I now feel ready to admit that I overreacted. I also told Ana that I hate that she always seems to get the worst of my moods even when she is the most supportive of me and so I apologized for that too.It turn out that while I was getting angry at her, she was writing out that sweet card she gave me! Boy did I feel bad after hearing that! 

In addition I really hurt her feelings and affected her Christmas.  She also said she thought I would eventually come around and was disappointed that it took me so long to do so. The more we discussed it the worse I felt, so she and I talked it all through and I apologized to her for all of it and we are now good.....really good in fact.....except that now it comes down to what she feels are the appropriate consequences....which from talking to her I think are going to be significant.  But I didn't think she should have to roll this into something else to hide it. So I asked her to go back to her first instinct and address this separately just like she had originally wanted. I even asked her if she felt that was more appropriate and she agreed, and I think from what you have said to me on this that you do too. 

I also want to apologize for not trusting you both more when you tried to correct me right at the start. Not only was that wrong based on what happened but it was wrong of me to put either of you in a situation where you felt inhibited from acting based on fear of my reaction. How silly is it of me to profess how much I trust you two as reasonable and responsible authority  figures if I fight what you tell me whenever I'm too stubborn to give in?  I honestly don't like that about myself. 

I promise to try to be better about this. I have never felt either of you ever punished me unfairly, though at times it took me a while to see it. So obviously I think I wasn't wrong to give each of you this authority over me. You both have proven yourselves worthy of it. And in talking I flat out asked Ana if she thought that my behavior was better when I was getting spanked more often and she admitted it was. She sincerely feels that I am a person who just functions and behaves better with more consistent and frequent discipline. Perceptive girl, huh?

So now I just need to accept the consequences for all of these things. Ana certainly believes this is one more lesson that needs to be learned over your lap......the hard way...... and I think you do too. So when you are ready I am prepared to be taught that lesson.......and I definitely don't expect it to be 'fun'. I still wish I could have seen my fault sooner but I guess I was too stubborn. Anyway you were both right and my feeling is that you will agree with your daughter that this needs to be one of those serious spankings. And in that regard I want to ask that you too consider adding whatever you feel is appropriate for me not listening to YOU sooner. I think you may already be thinking this but I wanted to say it anyway because you were affected by my stubbornness also. So naturally if you decide to add your 'voice' to this punishment, I won't argue.

(I also want to make a voluntary but serious request for whatever happens with the Christmas incident punishment. I would like to respectfully ask that from today on you keep me O-less for TWO full months. I know this might be very difficult but I think it's deserved. combination with whatever spankings I get,  should also keep me pretty focused on behaving!

Love you!

So there you have it. The reason I was brief earlier is that I felt the note details the specifics for everyone quite clearly and thoroughly. 

As I write this, Ana has just left and I have now seen the slips. Here is what she wrote with me having changed their names to their blog identities:

So there you have it. 2000 spanks, which Ana naturally knows and intends to be a series of sequential smaller spankings. This is nothing new with her when she wants to deal with something seriously, since she knows not only what effect a spanking of 300 or so smacks can mean by itself, but what it means when delivered on the 4th or 5th day of a consecutive series. 

Rosa has yet to weigh in on this, but based on a conversation she and I had on a hike after Christmas (which contributed to me considering that perhaps Ana was not at fault) I am pretty sure (as is Ana) that she will take this seriously and indeed add her own contribution to it. The only thing now is Rosa feeling rested enough from the last few days of extended working hours, which also included the weekend, giving her no day off, to have the mindset to deal with this. Once refreshed though, I think this is going to end up a significant punishment......and that's not even counting that we haven't yet broached the 2018/2019 ones!

Sunday, January 6, 2019

Follow-up & Feedback

Not long after I posted about my 'adventure' with Nickki, she responded with a comment. But the post also prompted a text exchange between us that revealed some interesting feelings and thoughts. While there's no need to re-post the entire textual conversation, I thought it worthwhile to share some of the either more revealing, or just amusing, highlights. ( For the sake of clarity, I edited the content and corrected the spelling and grammatical errors that inevitably happen when texting. I did not alter anything as far as content though.)

Special thanks to Domhnall the Second who visits here occasionally, for sending me reworkings of the two shots I posted yesterday, feeling he captured the reality of my situation a bit more clearly. 

For context, let me explain that I texted Nickki earlier in the day just to make sure everything was good with her and Jean. Like I hinted at in my post, besides the adventure, a lot of emotional stuff also went on that night and I wanted to make sure my dear friends were doing OK. She responded that things were good and that they were just finishing up a productive conversation about stuff. To add some levity I texted:

KDP: I am going to take down Christmas since my honey is working.

Nickki: We like it up inside a little bit longer.
(there is definitely wording here one could have fun with....."that's what she said" LOL)

KDP: Well the choice is individual. For me I like to move on to the next thing. And besides It's something I can do to keep busy while my honey is gone. 

Plus it means I can get it done without her freaking out over the boxes.

Nickki: Oh yes

KDP:'s something productive I can do that..............doesn't involve sitting!  (pain face emoji followed by a kiss emoji )

Nickki: Great. Talk later. Be careful and don't injure yourself.
 (totally ignoring what I thought was both self-effacing humor and even a bit of a compliment to her )

So I figured that Nickki must have been preoccupied to have just blown off my joke like that, and since she once reprimanded me for doing the same thing to a text joke she once sent me while I was preoccupied, I thought it would be a good time to say we were even. After her comment was posted on the blog I texted her to thank her and then added my comment about her ignoring my joke just like I once did to her and she did in fact explain that she was indeed preoccupied and just missed it, but going back and re-reading it prompted this text:

Nickki: I'm laughing at you because your humor is as bad as mine.  She went on to say that she was also in the process of texting both me and my youngest stepson simultaneously.)

KDP: Well they say that the best humor has truth in it and my joke definitely did! Besides I thought you would take it as a compliment if you knew that I was looking to do things that didn't require sitting.

Nickki: I may be stretching myself thin ( referring to texting two people at once ) but at least I'm not hot! (being 'hot' has sort of become a running joke between us going back to a photo she got of me after Rosa had just given me a spanking based on a slip from her. She even mentioned it again in her post comment. It's  like our own understood code word for 'sore-bottomed' )

KDP: I disagree honey. We're both hot. Except you're hot in that good 'sexy mama' way and I'm hot in the sore 'spanked by mama' way. (crooked smile emoji)

Nickki: Lolololol thank you. Hopefully you are not driving and texting.

 After assuring her I was safely home, I asked her a more pertinent question:

KDP: You know what I wanted to ask? I was curious about what your favorite part of our little adventure was?

Nickki: Watching how your face lit up  like a little kid when you challenged me. It was funny. And the other was that I had control. It was my paddle and I like that one much better than the spoon. I also liked my end results a lot.

I have a better understanding of who you are as a DD person. I've just never dominated someone in this way, so it's different. I think I'm still geared towards thinking of you as my friend and participate because you like it......but don't piss me off because I have the power.

I found her comment to perfectly align with what I wrote in response to her blog comment and suggested she read it. This is what it said:

 >>>I feel like each time you take action, it's like you're putting another chip on your side of the otherwise balanced scale of our friendship, tipping certain aspects more and more in favor of your authority. It's kind of impressive to watch that shift especially while also being a part of it.

Now of course, yesterday I was just flat out 'asking for it' LOL It's going to be interesting for me to see where and when you decide to initiate something based on your own feelings.<<< 

 She read it and afterwards responded with this:

Nickki: I just read your reply on the blog. You are right. You said it perfectly.

I then asked her if she wanted to know my favorite part and naturally she did.

KDP: My favorite part was when I was wiggling around from the sting of your smacks and you kind of scolded me to stay in place . It was very humbling because i knew you were right to call me on it. And because I felt that way I tried to not only stay more still but also try to position myself so that you could have a better shot at my butt.And it was kind of cool because i was doing that while knowing it was going to make it easier for you to spank me even more effectively. But I still felt like i should.

And then when you kind of thanked me for positioning myself like that and then spanked harder. Wow! I was just like "Damn! She's got me right where she wants me now!"

Nickki: Lolol

KDP: Hey I did taunt you. It's like poking the bear. And I got just what I deserved.

Nickki: You damn sure did. Goodnight. Talking to the two of you at the same time exhausted me. Love all of you. Talk later.

And that's how our conversation ended. Pretty cool. I felt like we are essentially on the same page and are both sort of intrigued by how something like this might change certain aspects of our friendship, but not unwilling to have that power imbalance. And I think that's the important part. It's one thing to have an "unequal friendship" where one person is bullying the other, but this is very different. I believe Nickki and I are very secure in knowing the essence of our friendship will always be based on mutual care and respect. The only part that changes is that she will be able to deal with certain things with punishment.....but even there, I know she will always be fair with the serious stuff and only 'unfair' when it's for fun ........and I'm fine with that!

even if it means occasionally ending up like THIS.....or worse! LOL

And I suppose that is the most significant takeaway for me from all of this......the realization that Nickki has learned firsthand that spanking hard won't break me. A strong smack just stings more than a lighter one. That's always a huge turning point for a disciplinarian......and consequently the person who is accountable to them. A reasonable person never wants to injure someone they care about, nor does a submissive wish to be seriously injured...... but I think a person who is interested in being a spanker also (as you can even see from Nickki's own comments) greatly enjoys the power and freedom to be somewhat tough. They usually feel that if they are going to spank someone, and that person deserves the spanking, well's going to be a damned SPANKING.  

Once they learn from experience how hard they can go without causing injury, it opens their eyes to the full potential of the power they wield because in all honesty, the surprising answer is "pretty darned hard". Every person I've ever known who has ever made that discovery has always ended up being a very confident and firm spanker. These are the people that you never enter into a spanking with worrying for your safety while also knowing there's no way "it'll be a breeze".  

Anyone who has been spanked seriously knows what I'm getting at. The 'spanking meter' has a pretty broad range between "wimpy" and the maximum level at which the smacks could become physically dangerous. That last criteria is pretty high as long as the blows are directed to fleshy areas.....meaning that a spanking can get pretty painful before ever getting anywhere near the "dangerous" mark. A confident spanker is not afraid to explore that very wide territory......and it's within that territory that we submissives develop a healthy respect for a disciplinarian's power.

My spanking Friday might have been prompted by a childish taunt rather than some serious breach of conduct, and while Nickki's reaction was not one of offended outrage, it did not stop her from teaching me a pretty clear lesson about what she is capable of. I got a darned good paddling for my stunt. And this was only her second attempt.......for something relatively silly. So I am pretty sure while her 2018 'reward' might not be too bad (though it could LOL) the warning for 2019 is going to be ......memorable. But then isn't that the point of a punishment?

Saturday, January 5, 2019

"I dare ya."

When it comes to serious DD, I am the first to condemn the practice of 'bratting' to get attention (and we all know what I mean in this case by "attention".) But in the broader view, I think as in all aspects of life, there are situations that sometime call for unusual methods. Take last night.

I had a very long day of travel to and from the Philly area after spending a good part of the day installing new locks, doorknobs, and other odd jobs in my daughter's new house. When I arrived home I was surprised to hear my Rosa tell me that we had just been invited to go over to Nickki & Jean's house for some Jenga, Yahtzee, and drinking. All it took was a quick shower and I was ready!

Now unfortunately our friends have recently been bombarded by some pretty upsetting things, but I don't need to go into all of that here. Still the evening was a mix of ups and downs and a lot of it was probably good we were there for them. As the evening went on Rosa sort of paired up with Jean and I with Nickki as often happens, and each 'couple' had their own side conversations. Naturally Nickki's and mine drifted towards DD and I figured it was the perfect time to tell her that Rosa and I had decided to do the year end close-out  punishment thing again .....only we had figured that given the new circumstances, Nickki would be free to execute the punishments herself this time. 

Interestingly Nickki confessed she had recently had a similar thought and was going to surprise us with a visit....but weather interfered and she stayed home. But that admission was enough for me to feel comfortable taking the conversation further. One thing that  Nickki said was that she was having a hard time resolving two conflicting feelings: on one hand, after our first spanking adventure and follow-up conversations she felt a strong desire to have another go .......only THIS time hard enough to give me the really red butt she was after. But because she also felt like my assistance through the year with their new home was so helpful, she couldn't find any way to be upset with me. As a result she was thinking that maybe she should do the year end thing as a REWARD spanking.

I understood her position and we discussed Ana and her approach: there's no need to have negatives wipe out the positive or vice versa. In other words, you can be rewarded for the good you've done while still being accountable for the bad. Nickki seemed to like that and agreed she'd like to be able to go into the spanking with a bit of punitive zeal. So I suggested that since there were two separate punishments involved in the event (close-out of 2018 and kick-off for 2019) she could treat the close-out as the reward she suggested, but then she could adopt a more stern approach for her 'warning to behave' in 2019. She seemed to like that.

After discussing this topic for a while there was definitely some energy in the air. But because the night had been a bit of an emotional roller-coaster, there was also some hesitation as well. I reminded her about now having  a lot of freedom to act, but added that to enjoy it she would eventually have to act. Then I teased her that "hey, you could do something now if you wanted. Rosa's right in the next room. Do you really think if you asked her she's going to refuse you?" She assured me she was well aware of that and then made some excuse about why she shouldn't, but I got the sense that perhaps she was thinking about it. 

So then I did something utterly brattish and juvenile. (but pretty funny) I summoned up all of the cockiest attitude I could muster, and leaning in with a big grin, said "I DARE ya." Nickki gave me a look and again started to dismiss the dare but I just rolled my eyes sarcastically and said, "yeah, yeah, all talk." Well that's all it took. Nickki got up with an evil smirk and walked into the next room where I could just make out that she was talking to Rosa, but I couldn't hear her words. I did hear Rosa give emphatic consent though!

The next thing I see is Nickki re-entering the dining room, armed with her paddle, and sporting a look of pure smug vengeance. She pointed at me and ordered me to follow her. She led me to their basement and said that she didn't want me over her lap this time but rather face down, butt up on the futon. I could use pillows to raise my bottom. She would then spank from a standing position because she wanted more leverage so she could achieve the red butt she was after. She also didn't want me naked this time, pants off was good enough. So I stripped off my jeans and boxers and plopped myself over a small pile of pillows and waited. 

Then Nickki gave me a really good spanking! At first she used the paddle across both buttocks at once but she did so hard. I was having an appropriately difficult time of it as she now got to tease ME: "So, you think you're going to challenge me in my own house?" she asked rhetorically while slamming the paddle down. 

Then after a good bit of serious paddling, she paused and her voice changed back to normal as she told me that I was bleeding and she figured she should probably stop. She seemed either concerned or disappointed, maybe both. I asked her if it was like a true cut or a dot and she said it was a dot. I explained that what probably happened was that because I shave back there I sometimes get these little ingrown hair 'pimples' and that she probably just broke one of them. I told her it happens every now and then with Rosa and that she just ignores it because it's nothing serious. Nickki said she did notice that I had a couple of those 'pimples' and that at long as it wasn't a problem, she was fine with continuing. I promised her that I was fine if she wanted to continue and I even offered her some advice about using the paddle one cheek at a time. And with that bit of reassurance, out popped the evil side of my friend and the spanking continued with equal fervor. 

Taking my advice on the single cheek spanks (which she even thanked me for telling her about) she struck my left cheek repeatedly and then just alternated in all sorts of patterns. Going back to scolding, she brought up her disappointment about me not following her instructions after her Halloween Party spanking and I found myself sincerely apologizing as I wriggled like a sorry little boy. She even scolded me for the wriggling and told me to stay in position and take my punishment. I obeyed and even decided to arch up a bit and offer her a better shot at my bottom. After all of my previous wriggling I thought of the gesture as a kind of wordless agreement that I fully accepted her spanks as deserved, something she not only noticed but even commented on approvingly. She also wasted no time in taking full advantage of my more vulnerable positioning, landing strong swats to the lower curves of my bottom.....the good old 'sit-spots' that seem to be such favorite targets for enthusiastic spankers.

I don't know how many I got but when she told me we were done I definitely knew I had been spanked by someone who MEANT IT. After redressing Nickki suggested we sit together and she held me very maternally and we discussed the spanking a bit before rejoining Rosa and Jean. As we got up I asked Nickki if this was her contribution for the 2018/2019 punishment and she said "oh no. This was just for you teasing me. The other will come another time."

This not-very-good 'selfie' is how my bottom looked when we got home.....I hate how it's so hard to capture the color of what was there  if anyone saw me in person!

Naturally I got a little knowing smile from Rosa but not as much teasing as I thought I might, and Nickki and I just joined the current conversation. As I sat I could not only feel my bottom predictably burning but actually THROBBING in steady pulses! (something I told Nickki in a text later).  So I can honestly say that I am well on my way to seeing Nickki in a whole new way. This last spanking proved she is a force to be reckoned with and neither afraid to spank hard nor lacking in confidence that it's her right to do so. What will be interesting going forward is how things will be once she begins to initiate spankings without any goading from me.

And to prove Nickki's spanking was as memorable as I said, THIS is me this afternoon. A little better quality, since I had more time to try to get it right. Still pretty pink.....and still tender too!

Wednesday, January 2, 2019

Holiday Tables & a Butt

Rosa and I again used the same theme as last year for our Christmas Eve and Christmas Day table:

Festive and a bit quirky!  (like us)

But for New Year's Day, Rosa suggested we use a set of classy china we got from our dear neighbors, Marta & Wally, because they just no longer wanted the set. So, armed with very nice genuine china (for free) we took a cue from the "Renaissance" decor in our dining room and came up with this:

Not bad for a quick improvisation using stuff we already had.

The only visually awkward compromise was the folding of the very long tapestry runner....which is usually on our server....... in order to shorten it to a more practical length for a table. We definitely liked the look of this but admit there is room for some improvement when we use it again.

And as promised, here is a butt to start the year off! Rosa wanted me to take a few pictures of her and in the middle of posing she got a little silly and did this:

When she heard me click her cell phone camera anyway, she laughed and said she'd send it to me to post here! (Her idea, mind you!) So....... enjoy a little peek at my Honey.....even if her full magnificence is clad in denim!