Special thanks to Domhnall the Second who visits here occasionally, for sending me reworkings of the two shots I posted yesterday, feeling he captured the reality of my situation a bit more clearly.
For context, let me explain that I texted Nickki earlier in the day just to make sure everything was good with her and Jean. Like I hinted at in my post, besides the adventure, a lot of emotional stuff also went on that night and I wanted to make sure my dear friends were doing OK. She responded that things were good and that they were just finishing up a productive conversation about stuff. To add some levity I texted:
KDP: I am going to take down Christmas since my honey is working.
Nickki: We like it up inside a little bit longer. (there is definitely wording here one could have fun with....."that's what she said" LOL)
KDP: Well the choice is individual. For me I like to move on to the next thing. And besides It's something I can do to keep busy while my honey is gone.
Plus it means I can get it done without her freaking out over the boxes.
Nickki: Oh yes
KDP: And....it's something productive I can do that..............doesn't involve sitting! (pain face emoji followed by a kiss emoji )
Nickki: Great. Talk later. Be careful and don't injure yourself. (totally ignoring what I thought was both self-effacing humor and even a bit of a compliment to her )
So I figured that Nickki must have been preoccupied to have just blown off my joke like that, and since she once reprimanded me for doing the same thing to a text joke she once sent me while I was preoccupied, I thought it would be a good time to say we were even. After her comment was posted on the blog I texted her to thank her and then added my comment about her ignoring my joke just like I once did to her and she did in fact explain that she was indeed preoccupied and just missed it, but going back and re-reading it prompted this text:
Nickki: I'm laughing at you because your humor is as bad as mine. ( She went on to say that she was also in the process of texting both me and my youngest stepson simultaneously.)
KDP: Well they say that the best humor has truth in it and my joke definitely did! Besides I thought you would take it as a compliment if you knew that I was looking to do things that didn't require sitting.
Nickki: I may be stretching myself thin ( referring to texting two people at once ) but at least I'm not hot! (being 'hot' has sort of become a running joke between us going back to a photo she got of me after Rosa had just given me a spanking based on a slip from her. She even mentioned it again in her post comment. It's like our own understood code word for 'sore-bottomed' )
KDP: I disagree honey. We're both hot. Except you're hot in that good 'sexy mama' way and I'm hot in the sore 'spanked by mama' way. (crooked smile emoji)
Nickki: Lolololol thank you. Hopefully you are not driving and texting.
After assuring her I was safely home, I asked her a more pertinent question:
KDP: You know what I wanted to ask? I was curious about what your favorite part of our little adventure was?
Nickki: Watching how your face lit up like a little kid when you challenged me. It was funny. And the other was that I had control. It was my paddle and I like that one much better than the spoon. I also liked my end results a lot.
I have a better understanding of who you are as a DD person. I've just never dominated someone in this way, so it's different. I think I'm still geared towards thinking of you as my friend and participate because you like it......but don't piss me off because I have the power.
I found her comment to perfectly align with what I wrote in response to her blog comment and suggested she read it. This is what it said:
>>>I feel like each time you take action, it's like you're putting another chip on your side of the otherwise balanced scale of our friendship, tipping certain aspects more and more in favor of your authority. It's kind of impressive to watch that shift especially while also being a part of it.
Now of course, yesterday I was just flat out 'asking for it' LOL It's going to be interesting for me to see where and when you decide to initiate something based on your own feelings.<<<
She read it and afterwards responded with this:
Nickki: I just read your reply on the blog. You are right. You said it perfectly.
I then asked her if she wanted to know my favorite part and naturally she did.
KDP: My favorite part was when I was wiggling around from the sting of your smacks and you kind of scolded me to stay in place . It was very humbling because i knew you were right to call me on it. And because I felt that way I tried to not only stay more still but also try to position myself so that you could have a better shot at my butt.And it was kind of cool because i was doing that while knowing it was going to make it easier for you to spank me even more effectively. But I still felt like i should.
And then when you kind of thanked me for positioning myself like that and then spanked harder. Wow! I was just like "Damn! She's got me right where she wants me now!"
KDP: Hey I did taunt you. It's like poking the bear. And I got just what I deserved.
Nickki: You damn sure did. Goodnight. Talking to the two of you at the same time exhausted me. Love all of you. Talk later.
And that's how our conversation ended. Pretty cool. I felt like we are essentially on the same page and are both sort of intrigued by how something like this might change certain aspects of our friendship, but not unwilling to have that power imbalance. And I think that's the important part. It's one thing to have an "unequal friendship" where one person is bullying the other, but this is very different. I believe Nickki and I are very secure in knowing the essence of our friendship will always be based on mutual care and respect. The only part that changes is that she will be able to deal with certain things with punishment.....but even there, I know she will always be fair with the serious stuff and only 'unfair' when it's for fun ........and I'm fine with that!
even if it means occasionally ending up like THIS.....or worse! LOL
And I suppose that is the most significant takeaway for me from all of this......the realization that Nickki has learned firsthand that spanking hard won't break me. A strong smack just stings more than a lighter one. That's always a huge turning point for a disciplinarian......and consequently the person who is accountable to them. A reasonable person never wants to injure someone they care about, nor does a submissive wish to be seriously injured...... but I think a person who is interested in being a spanker also (as you can even see from Nickki's own comments) greatly enjoys the power and freedom to be somewhat tough. They usually feel that if they are going to spank someone, and that person deserves the spanking, well hell......it's going to be a damned SPANKING.
Once they learn from experience how hard they can go without causing injury, it opens their eyes to the full potential of the power they wield because in all honesty, the surprising answer is "pretty darned hard". Every person I've ever known who has ever made that discovery has always ended up being a very confident and firm spanker. These are the people that you never enter into a spanking with worrying for your safety while also knowing there's no way "it'll be a breeze".
Anyone who has been spanked seriously knows what I'm getting at. The 'spanking meter' has a pretty broad range between "wimpy" and the maximum level at which the smacks could become physically dangerous. That last criteria is pretty high as long as the blows are directed to fleshy areas.....meaning that a spanking can get pretty painful before ever getting anywhere near the "dangerous" mark. A confident spanker is not afraid to explore that very wide territory......and it's within that territory that we submissives develop a healthy respect for a disciplinarian's power.
My spanking Friday might have been prompted by a childish taunt rather than some serious breach of conduct, and while Nickki's reaction was not one of offended outrage, it did not stop her from teaching me a pretty clear lesson about what she is capable of. I got a darned good paddling for my stunt. And this was only her second attempt.......for something relatively silly. So I am pretty sure while her 2018 'reward' might not be too bad (though it could LOL) the warning for 2019 is going to be ......memorable. But then isn't that the point of a punishment?