About twenty years ago or more, there was a blog/forum/website "Patty & Ron's Chastity" ostensibly run by Patty. It included personal anecdotes, advice, interaction with visitors, and even photos of the two. After a while two things happened. Naturally guests like myself and others who were engaged in chastity play in RL became a 'family of friends'. But at the same time, there was a troubling series of inexplicable inconsistencies. Every time Patty & Ron went on a vacation, they would post very sexy, even racy photos of the two of them. And there were always pictures of Ron in his chastity cage. But what you never saw was Patty in any of the chastity pictures, not one, not even holding a key.
With all of the pictures of Patty and Ron published on that forum, you'd think something as simple as this would be routine.......yet even after being requested, it was an image never to be seen.
Some visitors challenged this and were promptly beaten down by Patty's more avid...even rabid... fans. "Patty" also had a friendship with me, with private emails, exchanges of photos, anecdotes and advice. But after a while, even I said to 'her' privately that she should just quell the doubters with a simple shot of her with Ron in his cage. She always had an excuse and eventually her excuses and refusal to do this simple thing made me suspicious as well. So I pulled back and did not participate like I used to....even feeling foolish for having trusted this person.
A short while later, I found out from one of the 'family of friends' that things eventually hit a crescendo and Ron confessed to having been "Patty" all along, and that as wild as the couple seemed, and while really a couple, Patty had no chastity interaction with Ron at all and so he was using the website forum as his outlet. One couple I knew.....a very nice husband and wife....were so devastated that they not only quit the site, but the Internet itself. They disappeared from everywhere they used to post feeling that they could no longer trust anyone anywhere.
I tell this story because it is one personal to me......but certainly nothing unique. To say Ron was some rare anomaly would be foolish and naive. The "Rons" of the adult internet circuit abound. And while I understand them, I also despise them. After the things I discussed and shared with Ron, thinking he was someone else, I feel I could easily, guiltlessly bludgeon the fucker if I ever met him.
How many Rons are out there?
I also tell this story as a warning. It's a warning to my fellow cyber-friends to be ever-vigilant lest you be betrayed one day as well. And it's a warning to the Rons out there: You may think what you are doing is helping you, or is fun for you, and is hurting no one. But it is. As Merlin said in EXCALIBUR:
So stop. And if you come here, come as who you really are and be welcome for who you are, because if I find out you aren't what you say, I will expose you to everyone.
There is another lesson here. Even if you are who you say you are, be careful not to present fiction as fact. Don't even lie about silly stuff for some whimsical reason, because if you lie about one thing, how can anyone trust you about anything?....especially things that seem somewhat unbelievable in the first place? In fact, if you visit an adult blog that posts adventures, I would say that if the adventure is fairly 'out there', adopt the philosophy of one of our regulars here, Merry: "Pictures, or it didn't happen." There is simply no reason in this day and age why a cell phone shot can't be used to confirm the most outlandish of stories....even if heads are cut off for anonymity. And if those shots aren't there? Don't believe the story. The world has enough mendacity, and while it's easy to perpetrate lies anonymously online, the practice is not welcome. At least not here, not with me.
A special image for Danielle:
Aristotle & Phyllis
(there's also a sculpture of this that used to be on exhibit in the Metropolitan Museum of Art in NYC.)