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Friday, July 30, 2021

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Don't ask me how this came up in a recent image search, but it did. Priceless. The only thing that would make it more timely would be if the guy on the left was a Catholic Cardinal whose name once adorned the High School in my previous home town. (true! The high school used to be "St. Mary's" but Mary got unceremoniously bumped so they could make it "Cardinal McCarrick". Mary must be fuming!)

I've railed in the past about people changing wording and photoshopping vintage ads and images to make them kinkier, funnier, or whatever was in the twisted mind of the perpetrator, but tell me......isn't it so much better when you find something like this and need to change nothing?

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On another note, while I have striven to be less concerned over participation here ever since my Covid encounter, I have to say that while I still feel less bothered than I used to by the paucity of comments inherent in blogging nowadays, the recent trickle of any sort of interaction from readers has been discouraging.

It tends to get slow in Summer. It always has. But this week alone has seen just 5 comments distributed over posts on Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday, with Tuesday's post receiving none at all. But on the bright side, the comments I do get are pretty good, on-topic and thoughtful ones. I definitely prefer fewer good comments to a stack of fluff. Like I've always maintained: I am far more interested in a pertinent observation, valid criticism, alternate viewpoint, clever bit of wit, or any kind of intelligent response than in praise. So to those who comment here: THANKS!

I am also curious about some things: for those of you who do comment here and elsewhere, does it bother you when your comment on a post gets no reply from the host? 

This one drives me a bit crazy. I think it's because I try to reply to every comment.....unless I miss it by oversight. My thought is that since I cherish interaction, if I actually get some, why would I ignore it? I can't fathom a host not caring that someone took the time to not only read what they wrote but write something back......and I don't just mean in reply to a two-word "good post" comment.

And for those of you with blogs who visit other blogs, does it bother you if you regularly comment on a blog whose host rarely if ever comments on yours?

It's one thing to be a blogger and lament how few reader/visitors ever participate, but when it's a fellow blogger? Aren't we all after the same thing? I realize I am sometimes guilty of this, the best example being Q's blog and I have confessed this to him, but while I can get into some of the topics there, I can honestly say that the cuckold fetish is one of the few quirks I don't have in me. Still, when I can, I try to say something on occasion, mainly because he comments here and his efforts should be recognized. So, while not perfect, I am mindful of what I see as polite "tit-for-tat", even as I realize that online friends don't always share the same interests.  

But.......it's not as big of a deal as it used to be for me. I will go on doing what I'm doing and see what the future brings. One irony is that in a recent "stat check" in Blogger, I found that while comments have dwindled, viewership has gone up! Meaning more people are visiting and fewer participating. Who says there's no such thing as a free lunch?




22 comments:

  1. Exactly why I stopped blogging KD.
    Too many 'freeloaders out there enjoying your efforts without the courtesy of a comment.
    I think it's a reflection of our society today where interaction , exchanges and common courtesy is declining , especially among younger people.
    Even when you pass these people while out walking , they avoid the common courtesy of a simple hello and drop their heads or are absorbed by some nonsense on their phone which they deem more important than an exchange with another human.
    Too much remote working is removing the social skills of a lot of people.
    Like you I don't fret about it as it's the way things are , but I'm pleased to see they still stop by my blog in large numbers looking for freebies and receive nothing.




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    1. I agree with your assessment. I have seen writing deteriorate as quick texts devoid of grammar or even spelling replace the careful prose of the once, well-written letter. When I see a documentary where correspondence from regular people is used to illustrate a point, I am always struck by the eloquence of even the least educated people. And when you shift to the highly educated of the past? Well....it's a different world and one that is as lost to us today as when one's word meant something.

      Back in November of 2020, I recommended "The Social Dilemma". I still do to anyone who hasn't seen it and may be unaware of how carefully constructed the online experience is for addiction.

      The only differences I see between you and me on this is that I am not giving up. I post for reasons that definitely include a desire for interaction, but not entirely. I am not yet prepared to abandon this because those other motivations are still there for me.

      The only other difference I see is that your blog was definitely focused consistently on kinky entertainment. I think it IS easy for a person to just abuse that "free lunch" of kinky amusement and offer nothing. For them it's like watching a free TV channel. On the other hand, I do all kinds of posts, with some also being kinky entertainment, but others sort of are clearly intended to draw out a reaction, an opinion, a discussion. It's harder for me to understand a good, juicy topic being ignored than if one of my quick bits of humor are.

      But I appreciate you and the others who still come by and leave actual comments with points to them like this one. So Thanks!

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    2. A free tv channel...good anology .
      I'm gradually moving my material off the blog to a secure site where there will be no free lunch.
      I just didn't realize I had so many posts !

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    3. Good luck on the transfer. That's a lot of work!

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  2. One of the best pieces of advice I got when starting out as a blogger was from the incomparable Bonnie, who said it's good to acknowledge all comments individually. And so I have always done so, and I appreciate the other bloggers who do so as well. And yes, it does irk me a bit when I comment to someone else and they don't say anything about it. We all like to be acknowledged.

    I dunno what's happened to blogdom. I think people have amazingly short attention spans these days, reading tweets instead of posts (raising hand; guilty of this as well). I don't read anywhere near as many blogs as I used to, and I rarely comment. I don't know why, exactly. Maybe because I feel like in some ways, it's all been said? Of course, that goes two ways, and I feel sad that my own blog gets such a dearth of comments and reads these days. I was looking back to 2010 and I found one post that had 54 comments! Those days are gone.

    Maybe it's about timing. The other day I posted a question on FetLife and was pleasantly shocked to be bombarded with comments and replies. So who knows.

    You had mentioned that I didn't comment on your End of the World series. (sigh) I'm sorry. I'll be totally honest, even though it may make you think less of me. I am so damned overwhelmed these days with all the bad news, all the dire predictions, the ugliness, the hate, the divisiveness. When I come online, it's like watching TV for me -- I want to escape. I want to read/watch something that is light and makes me laugh. I ponder and worry and cry over the state of things way too much as it is. So while your series was no doubt brilliantly written, it was just too heavy to wrap my frazzled little brain around.

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    1. Bonnie definitely lives by her advice, as do many others, yourself included. But not all.

      As for your last point, I get that some people just want to relax sometimes. (Rosa is like that, but for me it is an alien concept. I actually like to relax with an intense drama or detailed documentary, but I know I'm weird like that. LOL) I guess the reason I mentioned that piece to you specifically was that your most frequent contributions here were nearly always political, and I certainly don't just write about politics. So I figured the lighter kink-stuff was not your preference and heavier stuff was. So, now with you saying it's the opposite........hmmmmm......LOL.....so forget about the extinction series, why haven't you commented on my kinky tales and humor pieces? I can't write about Trump all of the time you know. LOL ;-)

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    2. Fair and valid question! Here's my deal. You have probably noticed that my kink wheelhouse is very small -- pretty much spanking only, and 100% M/F only. Not into other kinks, DD, F/M, F/F, etc., etc. Therefore, I don't relate to a lot of posts. Not just yours, but everyone's. And when I don't relate, I don't feel like I have anything of value to contribute. A lot of people already think I'm too damned opinionated as it is.

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    3. Fair and valid answer. I guess I contribute to your blog because I can and have switched and can see things from the M/f angle even if it's not my current or main thing. Ok. I can live with that, but hey, if you're in the neighborhood, I NEVER accuse ANYONE of being TOO opinionated, so feel free to let loose here....even if it's criticism. A discussion with everyone in agreement is a discussion not worth having. ;-)

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    4. Hmmm, your reply really got me thinking. I thought about it and I could apply your answer to the main issue quite easily. It makes sense that if I have a broader interest, I could enjoy a blog whose owner would not necessarily enjoy mine. Maybe it's that simple?

      Makes sense.....but also kind of sucks too.

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    5. "...but also kind of sucks too."
      Things generally do. Sorry. I'm in a Mood.

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    6. No problem. I visited your blog and fully understand.

      Here's hoping for things to improve.

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  3. I am still getting some comments bounced by your blog. Three in the last two weeks. Being able to comment here is a bit like tossing a coin to see if it sticks or not. I am wondering if this is happening to other people too? It might explain the reduced comments

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    1. Now THAT'S something to consider! Thanks, Prefectdt. I wonder why that is? My settings haven't changed to my knowledge. I don't have HTTPS redirect on HTTP enabled and was wondering if enabling it would be good or bad. I'm not even aware of what HTTPS vs. HTTP is. As for commenter restrictions? I have none. No moderation, no banned accounts, no restricted access for anonymous, nothing. Everyone should be able to pop in like a public bathroom. LOL And actually since you can get in at some times and not others, I do wonder if it could be a setting anyway? It doesn't make sense unless I kept changing settings, which I'm not. Thanks for the info! Anyone reading this with a similar issue please let me know via email linked in my profile if you can't get through here.

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    2. It has happened to me on morningstar's blog too. Not so often as here, perhaps 3 or 4 times in the last 12 to 18 months. Maybe it is something to do with my location or network provider, not interacting to well with Blogger

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    3. Perhaps. It certainly is baffling to me since I haven't changed anything.

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  4. if the blog owner does not react / acknowledge i am ok with it. They have a motivation for posting as i have for reading / commenting. if acknowledging does not tick the motivation box who am i to judge?

    on the difficulty to post sometimes i run up against the not a robot verifier and my selections continually are wrong. the traffic light is confounding. do you choose the square with the pole? the green light ends slightly in the square below. after 3 or 4 attempts i sometimes give up. a frustrating but needed feature

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    1. I think it's great that you can comment without looking forward to a reply. I wish I could do that.

      The thing with the robot verifier is you can 'pass' on a confusing image without any problem. If I see an image that leaves me confused I just skip to the next.

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  5. Hi KD,
    I am not a fellow blogger, because I simply don't have the time right now to stay on top of something like that and to give it the attention it deserves. However, I do feel a tiny bit slighted when I write a comment, especially since most of my comments are quite long and I usually think about them quite a bit before writing - though they may not end up well thought out - only to get no response at all!

    Not being a blogger, my opinion should be taken with a grain of salt, but I personally think that if the goal is to build a good forum for communication, consistency is probably more important than anything (I think this is the key to DD as well). So what seems ideal to me is for the person running the blog to check the blog daily, write at least short comments on any comment, especially those that others have not already commented on. I think it is better to post often and consistently, even if it means keeping the posts quite short, rather than to focus on writing the perfect blog post each time, with cohesive thoughts, just the right pictures, and so on, and then to not end up posting very often.

    -ZM

    -ZM

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    1. I agree your comments are refreshingly specific. I hope I have never missed replying to you. The only times I've missed a comment is when they are on old posts or if for some reason I didn't get an email notice for it. There are some visitors who for some reason do not trigger the email notice. I don't know why that is.

      As for your point on consistency, I have noticed it helps, especially if the alternative is posting very erratically and infrequently. However, I have personally experienced no significant change to comments even when posts were made daily.

      I think that Erica's point about visitors not necessarily sharing interest in certain things is probably closer to the truth. I had assumed for a long time that other kinky people were like me, with a lot of overlapping kinks and quirks, only to discover over time that especially among what could be called "the spanking community" it is quite the opposite with many members of that community having a very specific slice of interest. And while I have never seen gender dynamics as a dividing issue.....since I don't think there's any great difference between a woman being a DD sub or a man, it DOES seem like it matters a lot to others.

      And on that point I think there's more than a little prurience going on, despite what people might think. Again, with quite a number of years doing this I have seen that a minority of visitors are interested purely in a discussion, whereas I feel that the majority, even in a subtle way, enjoy a tingle of titillation with these topics. And THAT might well be the biggest problem I have. I LOVE titillation, BUT I don't want it or seek it ALL of the time. For me I love a discussion and then, for occasional fun, appreciate a little naughtiness.

      I have enjoyed other people's descriptions of kinky activities I have little interest in. I might not have much to say in return, but I don't think: 'oh, we don't do that, so who cares?' I'm fascinated with variety.

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  6. I got through periods of wax & wane with blogging. Not just n terms oof my own blogging frequency, but with how interested I am in reading/commenting on other people's blogs -- sometimes it's a matter of connection (with the content, or with the ccreator thereof) and other times it's a matter of prioritization.

    When I do visit a blog, I tend to read a backlog if I haven't been there for a while. But I don't feel the need the to comment on five posts when I'm catching up. I usually comment on at least one though, just to say "hey, I'm listening" even if I have nothing further to add.

    I don't reply to all the comments people leave on my blog. Likewise, I don't expect responses from my comments on other's blogs all the time. "Regular" responses, yes. "Always," no. It can be frustrating to write a comment and have it never show up. That's happened to me here on your blog as well as on Windy's and sometimes Fondles'. It's a blogspot problem more than other platforms, I've noticed. But it happens everywhere and spam filters are weird.

    I'm better at commenting when I know the writer actually wants my feedback; sometimes that's not clear, but if they make it clear personally, I'm more inclined to engage.

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    1. *in terms of

      Jayzus, I hate Autocorrect!

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    2. Interesting approach. All of us do seem differently motivated. Personally I think that given our more recent discovery of each other's places, your participation has been pretty encouraging.

      I think you are right about Blogspot/Blogger being the problem. I've had technical issues with them in other ways that turned out to be utterly unfixable and made no sense.

      As to your last point: if there's any doubt at this point let me assure you and anyone else reading: feedback is a goal here but as I said, not necessarily praise, but rather actual reaction, input, individual thought, with, and opinion. As my subtitle states clearly.....this is the place for THINKING deviants. LOL

      And I hate autocorrect too.......... and spellcheck when something is correct and spellcheck doesn't think so.

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